Looking for some advice.
I have been riding for around 2 and a half years with my sister at a riding school. (Twice a week). We are now hoping to loan/buy our own horse the only problem is I have no confidence at all on the ground with the horses. My sister had no fear and is full of confidence where as I'm standing in the corner terrified I'm going to be kicked. I have been doing a few lessons on the ground and a few own a pony days but I'm so on edge at every moment to the point I can be physically shaking. Some of the time because I'm so nervous the horse picks up on this and acts up which tends to escalate the problem. My instructor can insure me until the cows come home that the horse I'm working with will not kick and Im still so nervous. I can tell people get frustrated with me when I ask questions or am getting a bit anxious but I really can help it. I am constantly trying to push myself but I can't control these anxieties. I love horses and when im riding I feel great I have no issues when im in the saddle I tend to get a bit nervous if I feel the horse is going to act up but I think that's normal I have been bucked off and fell of numerous times and I'm still fine with riding however nothing terrible has happened to me on the ground and I still can't get over these fears. I don't know what else to do but the ground lessons are beginning to feel endless with no light at the end of the tunnel. I keep questioning if I should give up but regardless of how nervous I am horses do make me happy.
I have read thousands of books and watched as many horse shows and docs as I can find but still no help.
Does anyone else have any advise or been through this themselves and how did you overcome this?
Thanks
I have been riding for around 2 and a half years with my sister at a riding school. (Twice a week). We are now hoping to loan/buy our own horse the only problem is I have no confidence at all on the ground with the horses. My sister had no fear and is full of confidence where as I'm standing in the corner terrified I'm going to be kicked. I have been doing a few lessons on the ground and a few own a pony days but I'm so on edge at every moment to the point I can be physically shaking. Some of the time because I'm so nervous the horse picks up on this and acts up which tends to escalate the problem. My instructor can insure me until the cows come home that the horse I'm working with will not kick and Im still so nervous. I can tell people get frustrated with me when I ask questions or am getting a bit anxious but I really can help it. I am constantly trying to push myself but I can't control these anxieties. I love horses and when im riding I feel great I have no issues when im in the saddle I tend to get a bit nervous if I feel the horse is going to act up but I think that's normal I have been bucked off and fell of numerous times and I'm still fine with riding however nothing terrible has happened to me on the ground and I still can't get over these fears. I don't know what else to do but the ground lessons are beginning to feel endless with no light at the end of the tunnel. I keep questioning if I should give up but regardless of how nervous I am horses do make me happy.
I have read thousands of books and watched as many horse shows and docs as I can find but still no help.
Does anyone else have any advise or been through this themselves and how did you overcome this?
Thanks