I am still sort of in touch with a couple of school friends, via the internet. Not really close but nice to occasionally catch up with them.
I am very fortunate in that my very best friend from my childhood just happened to marry one of my brothers, so our friendship is now very close as we are also members of the same family. If things really go pear shaped she is always the one I turn to, and her to me. Plus she is also horsey so that is a bonus.:biggrin:
I do have friends here, but non that I would describe as close, apart from one or two. I always tend to turn to my family more than friends in times of extreme good fortune or extreme bad luck!:frown:
I do find that the older I get the more cynical I become about people's motives. I had one friend who I just knew was using me to get some free grazing......when I got entirely fed up with watering and checking her horses everyday, and refused the following spring.......surprise, surprise she quietly but rapidly disappeared from my life!
Another very good friend who was like a family member......I gave almost everything horsey I had left that I had acquired over the years, including a very cheap horse and a free loan of another let me down very badly the one and only time I asked something of her. In that moment I realised that she was most definitely NOT a good friend, but a spoilt user and grabber, nothing more.
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So I guess I can sum it up by saying, family is probably the only thing that has any real value to me anymore. Friends come and go as quickly as people's motives change. Cynical perhaps but safer to keep your barriers up IMO.