Autistic brother... HELP

sarah edwards said:
people who have limbs missing deaf and dumb kids and also blind kids, all kinds of disabilities guys out
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Do you mean children with learning difficulties?
Please try not to be so rude and blunt.

ETA - Apparently I'm wrong. So don't listen to me! It isn't offensive, so if you are offended by this, don't be, because it isn't!
 
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I presume she meant mute, 'dumb' is, sadly, like so many other words that are actually correct but have been used as put downs by idiots (which incidentally is another example) and as such have started to become regarded as derogatory
 
Mute sadly is another example deaf people are not. They are just deaf, cannot hear their own voices, but can in fact talk, this does not make them dump or mute, a very misleading word and hurtful in cases.
 
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im not been rude fat pony! i teach rda myself and i prefere teaching people with learning difficulties as apose to able body people the people i teach are deaf some of them dumb limbs missing that makes no differences atall im almost 30 now so im a little past the been rude stage and i would never ever be rude in regards to my passion which is teaching the rda as i love it its what they call job satisfaction thanks for the comments after wards guys aswell very kind of you to stick up for me yeap i agree words are mis read sometimes theres no harm ment by them at tall i hate people who call you RUDE for no reason
 
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Ugh :rolleyes: I may only be 17, but I've learnt a lot in this world. One thing being that you tend to feel strongly about things concerning you. One of them being having a friend who is ,how you put it, deaf and dunb.
She wouldn't like being called that, although she does and it upsets her. So I too, get offended when people use that phrase, whether it used to be 'correct' or not. If it upsets my friend, it's bound to upset other people with the condition, who perhaps go on NR.
That's all I was thinking of.
 
x.fat-pony.x said:
Ugh :rolleyes: I may only be 17, but I've learnt a lot in this world. One thing being that you tend to feel strongly about things concerning you. One of them being having a friend who is ,how you put it, deaf and dunb.
She wouldn't like being called that, although she does and it upsets her. So I too, get offended when people use that phrase, whether it used to be 'correct' or not. If it upsets my friend, it's bound to upset other people with the condition, who perhaps go on NR.
That's all I was thinking of.
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Ditto to that, hence the reason, dont use those words please. People who are 'Normal' dont like people to call them fat, if they are fat, thin if they are thin, flat chested if they are, and so on, its very hurtful to certain people, deaf people can talk, and some that use sign language, that does not make them dump or mute, likewise people who have limps missing can be called a freak, see my point, its very misleading and very hurtful, we are people with feelings, lets be just that.
 
:o I didn't mean to make my thread and argument match!!! lol :p

Glad things are settled!
Zoe.x
Thanks everyone for your fantastic posts and advise!:)
 
I think this is where you need to think about the intention with which something is said rather than what was said. I for one get very lost with knowing what the latest politically correct term is because the last politically correct term fell out of favour. If I use the wrong one it is not out of any disrespect but just because I can't keep up. Hense I won't be commenting on any threads that require me to use a a term about disabilty. To my mind it is better not to speak at all than to risk offending and that's a shame.
 
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please keep us posted on your brothers progress im sure he will really enjoy riding i hope you have found a rda centre near to you where he can enjoy been around and riding horses i get a lot of satisfaction from teaching rda and its such a joy espicailly when they get on the horses there faces are a picture and i sometimes get quiet emotional when the lessons are finished and they cuddle the ponies/horses and say by teacher sarah see you next week they love coming to the yard and it gives me so much job satisfaction i wish id done the training earlyer keep us posted
 
I volunteer at our local RDA one of the classes has autistic children in it and they have a ball Hope your brother has a successful lesson
 
I will keep you all updated dont worry!

And erm... you dont need to be like refered by your GP you just kind of erm go... :confused: I am a little confused at that post Midori...? :-S
I think it is probs just me having a blonde moment! Even though i am not even blonde!:p:D lol
Zoe.x
 
Should be able to get a 1:1 lesson but if not maybe he can join in your lesson and just be lead around and taught by a helper as well as the coach running the lesson, I found with lots of autistic riders if they have someone they know and trust(you) then they are less likely to want to get off because his whole lift he's probably try'd to be like you and now he can and he'll be able to show you everything he does because you'll be right there. I don't know anything about him other than that he is autistic which means i know even less about him ;) so it would probably be you and your mom that would know best what the RI should do with his lesson format (ie 1:1 or RDA Group lesson)
Jes
 
Autistics and horses seem to go together...they see things the same way it seems?? Monty Roberts has some knowledge of this subject, in one of his books i think.
I have a 22 year old autisitc daughter and she is always calmed by horses.
 
Not all of them, just like everyone else they are individual:) My son isn't bothered either way really. He is more into dogs.:D
 
I would certainly try your local RDA group. I can recommend it highly as I am a volunteer for our local group. We have autistic children among our riders and it is great to see how much they enjoy their weekly sessions. During the time that they are with us it is remarkable how much of a difference being around the ponies can make. Most RDA groups run very simple 'tests' that the childeren can take part in - its brilliant to see these children achieve these goals and the look on their faces when they collect their certificate and rosette is priceless.
Give it a try - it really will be worth it!
 
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