I wouldn't dream of hitting Rafi but poor old Jack got it today. He's normally a very placid soul and a real beginner's ride but he doesn't really have good manners - you think he does because he's so laid back normally, but if something upsets him he really doesn't care about who gets in his way.
One of his few stress triggers is if he thinks he's being left in the stable while everyone else goes out. Today I was tacking him up in his stable (tied up) when a couple of friends who were ready first led their horses out to the yard. Jack immediately stressed and started swinging his (rather large) butt about. Now if Rafi did that he'd bounce back as soon as he touched me, but not Jack - no, he just doesn't notice I'm there at all and although I tried to stand my ground, I'm no match for a 16.2 stocky ID x. After a couple of times of pushing him back to where he was supposed to be, ie not squashing me against the stable wall, I got fed up and next time he came across he met my fist in his belly. I feel so bad because he did actually grunt and because I was cross and shouted at him - I was told by my RI that you can be firm but should never be angry with horses because that's what frightens them and I've always stuck by that principle with Rafi, but I was angry with Jack today.
To be fair, after that I was able to finish tacking up and we had a good ride, but I feel really mean a) that I did it at all and b) that I treat Rafi better than I treat poor Jack!
If anyone can tell me I'm not a bad person I'd be eternally grateful, alternatively any tips for not losing my temper would be helpful!
ETA Rafi is my horse and Jack is OH's, but I was riding him today.
One of his few stress triggers is if he thinks he's being left in the stable while everyone else goes out. Today I was tacking him up in his stable (tied up) when a couple of friends who were ready first led their horses out to the yard. Jack immediately stressed and started swinging his (rather large) butt about. Now if Rafi did that he'd bounce back as soon as he touched me, but not Jack - no, he just doesn't notice I'm there at all and although I tried to stand my ground, I'm no match for a 16.2 stocky ID x. After a couple of times of pushing him back to where he was supposed to be, ie not squashing me against the stable wall, I got fed up and next time he came across he met my fist in his belly. I feel so bad because he did actually grunt and because I was cross and shouted at him - I was told by my RI that you can be firm but should never be angry with horses because that's what frightens them and I've always stuck by that principle with Rafi, but I was angry with Jack today.
To be fair, after that I was able to finish tacking up and we had a good ride, but I feel really mean a) that I did it at all and b) that I treat Rafi better than I treat poor Jack!
If anyone can tell me I'm not a bad person I'd be eternally grateful, alternatively any tips for not losing my temper would be helpful!
ETA Rafi is my horse and Jack is OH's, but I was riding him today.