they have sold my favourite horse

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:(:(My RS have sold the only horse I feel I have any confidence on. I have ridden 2 others there but find them too unpredictable and difficult to control. They have bought a new horse to replace my fave but it's a lot smaller and doesn't look big boned enough to carry me hefty self about. I am so upset and feel very negative. Had a lesson today on one of unpredictables but felt so out of balance I got off. No riding for me today. What would you guys do? :( :(
 
Oh no!
Id've hated that when i went lessons.
I would just persevere for now..it may just be a case of getting used to different horses after always riding a certain one.
If you still feel you dont like the horses why dont you look at other riding schools?


SL x
 
If you want to improve your riding you need to be able to ride as many horses as possible - of course you won't feel as confident on the other horses but I bet you weren't all that balanced when you rode your favourite for the first few times.

Time and practice will get you used to riding different horses which is much better than only feeling confident on or only being able to ride on horse.:)
 
I know that you are right but I have been trying the other 2 horses since Jan and don't seem to be making any progress wiith them at all. I feel like giving up.
 
nelsonsmum said:
I know that you are right but I have been trying the other 2 horses since Jan and don't seem to be making any progress wiith them at all. I feel like giving up.
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Don't give up - I was in the same situation as you - after a bad fall during one of my early lessons I became so dependant on one particular horse that I would point blank refuse to ride anything else - I actually got to the point of tears if I thought I had to ride something else but through time I was able to ride these other horses - at first I was crap, nervous, all over the place but I made myself do it and actually asked my RI not to let me ride Bertie and to make me try different things and eventually I began to love it - I would ride anything - ended up riding the cheekiest horse on the yard who would have you off soon as look at you and loved it - you'll get there - just take it at your own pace, don't push yourself too much if you don't want to - have a chat with your RI and explain your concerns and I'm sure they'll help you!

Here's Bertie - the horse that brought all my confidence back - I actually got to the stage where I didn't want to ride him as he was a beginners horse, total plod and too much hard work lol - I never thought I'd see the day when I wanted to ride on that was harder to stop than go forward!:p
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And Jimmy - the cheeky bugger who at first I refused to ride as he was a bit, erm, nuts but who I had sooo much fun on and almost bought!
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I agree entirely with "babybear". You will get there with the other horses. Maybe go back to basics for a while until you get your balance and confidence on them. It will come.
After that I'd recommend changing horses now and again too if you can, or regularly if you can bear it. As you've very sadly found out your favourite could be sold or on rest for a week/s and then you'll feel that your stuck again.
Good luck
 
Oh I hate it when that happens, you fall in love with them and then they go, and you don't even know about it. Its like you're a nobody.

My yard doesnt do this, unless they have to retire or poor things they get pts, which is worse.... but my last yard used to get rid of the horses all the time.

I remember feeling like I just didnt want to ride anymore if xxx or yyy wasnt there, but our RS riders feelings are just ignored.

Good luck with it, do ride lots and lots so you dont get too dependent for the next time.
 
I am so sorry. I too am a RS rider, with a favourite horse I have been riding for more than three years. I ride her better than any other too.

But (a big but) learning to ride means learning to ride horses. Not just one particular horse. But lots and lots. Your profile doesnt say how old you are nor how long you have been riding. But if you can only ride one horse, I'd say it is too early to be looking for a loan.
Set yourself a new goal of riding lots of horses over the next year or two. Some may really be the wrong shape for you to ride comfortably. But you need to explore what suits you physically and what does not.
After three or four sessions on a new horse, your body is likely to pick up the way to ride it.
I dont want you to risk riding horses you feel arent safe for you. None of us should do that. But as an RI said to me last week, ALL horses are unpredictable.
That's why another aim of learning to ride is to establish your balance, so you dont fall off even if something does go wrong. If you are feeling wobbly, I'd really suggest some good lunge lessons.
You will feel safe with an RI managing the horse and they are magic in making you more secure in the saddle.
 
I have been riding on and off since the age of 8. Rode a lot of ponies as a young un and loved it but since starting again as an adult (last summer) have become embarrassingly rubbish and nervous. Had a bad fall a couple of months back and realised I didn't bounce quite so well.
 
nelsonsmum said:
:(:(My RS have sold the only horse I feel I have any confidence on. I have ridden 2 others there but find them too unpredictable and difficult to control. They have bought a new horse to replace my fave but it's a lot smaller and doesn't look big boned enough to carry me hefty self about. I am so upset and feel very negative. Had a lesson today on one of unpredictables but felt so out of balance I got off. No riding for me today. What would you guys do? :( :(
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Totally understand how you feel. As a mature adult beginner after 4 lessons only had a bad accident, bolted off with me:eek:. Shot my confidance to pieces. I'm not a speed freak either

4 months later with healed bones I continued lessons at same 'non BHS' RS as I just love horses. I never felt confidant on anything I tried. No beginners horses that I felt safe on, all too forward or bucked/dodgy brakes. After 12 weeks I felt totally hopeless and it was all me. I actually hit rock bottom and refused to get on one day. That was the final straw.

Found an incredible BHS local approved centre using the BHS website, gorgeous facilities, trained staff. Highly recommend you try that. I now ride several horses that are so well schooled, in regular work and feel totally safe. In 12 weeks they had me from wobbly trot to cantering on the lunge! With schoolmaster horses and a qualified instructor you will be a different person. Once you find that trust on a safe horse you will be happy again. Don't waste your time & money, try a new approved centre.

I have a huge favourite too but my RI switches them round to stop me getting too attached. i would be gutted if he were sold. Hope you find a new ned to ride that will make you happy again :) Don't give up, you will find him/her
 
Don't lose heart! We all have our "type" of horse, the kind of horse we get on with better than others. When you encounter one you struggle with, it doesn't mean you're a bad rider, it means that the horse is not for you. Some of our best riders here, who are fantastic riding certain kinds of horses, can't even get a canter out of Lucky Boy because he has a very peculiar style. There's also novice riders who get a great canter on Lucky but can't get Interpol to walk in a straight line :rolleyes: Throughout your riding career you'll ride horses you "click" with and love to ride, and those you detest and just can't get on with. It's the trying that makes you a good rider, not the success.
A lot of stables tend to move their riders onto different horses quite frequently, which creates riders to can adapt their riding to suit the horse they're on. That, however, doesn't mean they all have Olympic potential! You obviously aren't at one of those stables, so you haven't had the chance to practice this - maybe try attending a different RS, or investing in private lessons with an instructor who specialises in teaching nervous riders. You may ride five different horses and not get on with any of them, then absolutely love the sixth, then hate the next few, then love the tenth. It happens to all of us :)
 
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