As most of you know I was still very novice when I got Rosie so didnt have much riding knowledge or experience, didnt ride for all that time and then found Parelli which I followed dilligently on the first couple of levels re groundwork but have been a bit hit and miss when it comes to the ridden stuff I never bothered with technique as whatever kept my confidence was the important bit. We did what worked for us in a vague kind of parelli type way with some other stuff I picked up/made up along the way! I suspect I made quite a lot of it up!
Consequently we ride Anna and Rosie style The basic aids are the same mostly, but generally we rely on a lot of telepathy, nudges and 'not that way you daft animal', 'what the hell are you doing now', woo hoo lets go, oh look theres a 3 inch gap in the heather lets call it a path etc etc. Very loose reins the majority of the time, if Rosie wants her head she gets it, if she wont canter I am learning to not push her because there is always a reason and when I 'make' her I end up falling off, likewise if she wont go over a mud puddle we walk around as I figure she's a better judge of depth and stickiness than me, we are bitless so no contact (and I dont understand what its all about anyway) no 'collection' (no idea what thats about either) and none of the stuff that lots of other riders seem to stress about seems to have any relevance to us at all!
In the greater scheme of things, and the bit that i hold onto is that it works for us and for what we do. I trust Rosie to find her own way in my choice of general direction, to do her best not to unseat me or lose me, to try hard for me (and she always does) and generally when she says 'no way Jose' I beleive her and we try and work out a way around it. I also beleive she trusts me to look after her, make good decisions, get us home again and feed her When we are out hacking, just Rosie and I in the middle of nowhere, we are a proper pair, looking out for each other, trekking over rough terrain, exploring and muddling through. Its great, Im very happy with our relationship and I know that this should be sufficient.
BUT... i am really keen to expand our horizons, try new things etc etc and actually would quite like regular lessons. But most of them are organised by traditionalists and I feel like a bit of a numpty I dont know what they are talking about, dont want to micro manage my horse, dont want to use a crop to make her do stuff and yet because all this stuff is constantly going on around me, I often feel pressured or pressure myself into doing it that way. And yet I want to do all the stuff they are organising
This has all come to a head around 2 incidents;
I guess the main part of my whinge is that I wish there was someone who could teach me to ride a bit closer that blooming Oxford! Cathy is great but its a long way and a lot of money for her to come down. I really wish i could just phone someone up and say Im struggling with x/y/z can you come and give us half an hours instruction.
I know that what Rosie and I do is right for us and I go to sleep every night with a clear conscience (apart from the dark side incidents ) but I just wish i didnt feel like other riders 'looked down' on us. I just want to be able to go to events and training etc and have fun and have a go without feeling like an idiot but still keeping our relationship intact. I know no-one said it was easy, but bloody hell!!!!
Consequently we ride Anna and Rosie style The basic aids are the same mostly, but generally we rely on a lot of telepathy, nudges and 'not that way you daft animal', 'what the hell are you doing now', woo hoo lets go, oh look theres a 3 inch gap in the heather lets call it a path etc etc. Very loose reins the majority of the time, if Rosie wants her head she gets it, if she wont canter I am learning to not push her because there is always a reason and when I 'make' her I end up falling off, likewise if she wont go over a mud puddle we walk around as I figure she's a better judge of depth and stickiness than me, we are bitless so no contact (and I dont understand what its all about anyway) no 'collection' (no idea what thats about either) and none of the stuff that lots of other riders seem to stress about seems to have any relevance to us at all!
In the greater scheme of things, and the bit that i hold onto is that it works for us and for what we do. I trust Rosie to find her own way in my choice of general direction, to do her best not to unseat me or lose me, to try hard for me (and she always does) and generally when she says 'no way Jose' I beleive her and we try and work out a way around it. I also beleive she trusts me to look after her, make good decisions, get us home again and feed her When we are out hacking, just Rosie and I in the middle of nowhere, we are a proper pair, looking out for each other, trekking over rough terrain, exploring and muddling through. Its great, Im very happy with our relationship and I know that this should be sufficient.
BUT... i am really keen to expand our horizons, try new things etc etc and actually would quite like regular lessons. But most of them are organised by traditionalists and I feel like a bit of a numpty I dont know what they are talking about, dont want to micro manage my horse, dont want to use a crop to make her do stuff and yet because all this stuff is constantly going on around me, I often feel pressured or pressure myself into doing it that way. And yet I want to do all the stuff they are organising
This has all come to a head around 2 incidents;
- we couldnt canter - Id ask, she'd trot faster and faster, Id get annoyed and frustrated. 98% of the time there was a reason she wouldnt canter - lots i suspect about my balance and the fact legs say go, hands say whoa, or there would be something up ahead that I hadnt seen yet but she had - often she'd refuse to canter and then 10 secs later theres a dog walker etc. Instead of trusting her i bought a crop becuase thats what you do apparently, if they wont go give em a tap. She bucked actually but after a few times cantered much better. However I have since fallen off twice as she spooked cos I made her and then there was something ahead. Its really hard when 999 other people are saying, its fine, you're not hurting her, just give her a tap and teach her some manners and theres only 1 other person saying, no it doesnt have to be like that. I keep turning to the dark side .....
- we went to a trec training session with a very tradtional dressage trainer - it was good experience and Rosie was great, we went over the tarp first time etc etc. I didnt canter as we are still not very balanced or practised and I wasnt ready for an audience but she kept talking about all this stuff and I was lost - shes saying 'get a contact as if you were hacking' Well I look down at our droopy reins and am thinking 'why on earth would you want contact for hacking?' and saying stuff like 'hold her with your legs to slow her down' why was she going to fall over if I didnt hold her up, hold to slow - how does that work surely pressure = go???? I didnt know what she was on about, it didnt make sense to me and I think thatwe are so far removed from traditional riding that I wouldnt want an instructor that taught that way anyway!
I guess the main part of my whinge is that I wish there was someone who could teach me to ride a bit closer that blooming Oxford! Cathy is great but its a long way and a lot of money for her to come down. I really wish i could just phone someone up and say Im struggling with x/y/z can you come and give us half an hours instruction.
I know that what Rosie and I do is right for us and I go to sleep every night with a clear conscience (apart from the dark side incidents ) but I just wish i didnt feel like other riders 'looked down' on us. I just want to be able to go to events and training etc and have fun and have a go without feeling like an idiot but still keeping our relationship intact. I know no-one said it was easy, but bloody hell!!!!