I need some NR help. :help: I've got myself so tied up in knots about the whole situation I can;t think my way through it at all. When reading about this please keep in mind that I'm on the come back from something approaching a nervous breakdown (didn't quite get there!) and have always had a high level of social anxiety... so please don't reproach me for being a compete wuss and not sticking up for my horses best interests.
Right, where to start? I'm really sorry, I think this is going to be really long - get yourself a cup of tea...
It's basically to do with the horses' turnout. Up until when I finished work the yard where turning them out and bringing them in for us. Fine. Except judging by the state of the stables they weren't getting the full 4 hours winter turnout and were often being put in the school instead (fine, if all the other horses were getting the same treatment but they weren't).; However we had little choice because we were both working and couldn't do it ourselves.
Now I'm not working we can basically save £300 a month by me doing all the work and not having to have them on full livery 1 day a week. So this is good.
BUT I am really struggling to manage both the practicalities and the politics of the turnout situation.
Our horses are turned out in a field that is a 5 minute walk from the yard which is fine. But it's quite exposed with no natural or man-made shelter. The field is further divided into smaller paddocks by electric fencing and our pair have their own paddock. The gate to their paddock happens to be at pretty much the lowest point in the entire field and is always quite damp anyway. BUT our horses have decided that they are going to fret at the gateway (run up and down and paw the ground etc) when they think it's time to come in and as such they have made a complete mess of it - even after the recent dry spell they could still sink in up to their knees in parts.
The horses have had this behaviour reinforced because the yard have been bringing them in whenever they are doing it (into a nice warm stable with hay in!); which has made the behaviours worse to the point where I can't turn them out for an hour while I muck out without someone coming and telling me my horses "look ready to come in". Even on nice days and even appropriately rugged on less nice days. When I have managed to get away from the yard before this happens I have come back to find that someone has fetched them in for me.
Obviously the behaviours peaks when there is someone in the field bringing other horses in - and because most of the horses around them are under the control of the yard they come in at lunchtime and sometimes earlier. I have been completely unable to get my horses out early enough in order to get them in before they are wound up by the others coming in... the yard either turnout at 7.30am or the horses they turnout don't get 4 hours basically...
I admit I have totally given up for a time and just put the poor buggers in the school to stretch their legs every day. I hate it, I want my horses to have as much turnout as possible and I hate myself for doing it but I keep getting to the point where I'm on the verge of a panic attack when turning them out and as soon as anyone says they are fretting at the gateway I burst into tears. And it makes it harder to actually go to the yard at all because the indecision about what to do every day freaks me out.
The yard have made it very clear that they do not like the state the field has gotten into. Yet everything we have suggested they could do to help us solve the problem has been dismissed. Move the gateway? They'll just churn up the new spot (I actually think they wouldn't because they come to the side nearest the big field gate... where the paddock gate also happens to be...) Fence of the whole churned up area? They'll just churn up the next bit of field. Move them to a smaller field nearer the yard which is more sheltered and where they won't feel quite so on their own and would help break the habit due to the different location? A flat no, not possible.
Their solution? They'll help me bring them in and out. As if the problem is me not being able to handle them to and from the field... To be honest I think they just want me to get them to bring them in and out all the time again. Which costs us money. And I just think that some individuals just want to be as in control and interfere with things around them as much as possible...
On Friday I got told that they were ready to come in but by the time I got up there they seemed settled again, or at least thinking about being settled again until I appeared of course. So I do think just leaving them to it and sod the field would actually solve the problem long term - once they don't get their behaviour at the gate reinforced by being brought in and given hay.... But it's managing to achieve that without breaking down crying cos someone is pushy about my horses being ready to come in if I'm there or actually ending up with them being brought in when I'm not there.
I have also decided that when I bring them in they will never go straight to their stables - I will put them out in the school for half an hour OR if that isn't possible and they really must go to their stables there will be no hay for them for at least an hour. So coming in is a less positive experience (at this point in time I'd be less stressed out if it took be half an hour to catch them everday! Seriously.)
There's a whole load of detail missing here but I think I've got to the main important points, I think.
I really want my horses to get more turn out even if the damn horses don't actually think they WANT more turnout! :frown:
Has anyone got any advice? Any new perspective? Please be constructive, I feel so fragile about this. :unsure:
Right, where to start? I'm really sorry, I think this is going to be really long - get yourself a cup of tea...
It's basically to do with the horses' turnout. Up until when I finished work the yard where turning them out and bringing them in for us. Fine. Except judging by the state of the stables they weren't getting the full 4 hours winter turnout and were often being put in the school instead (fine, if all the other horses were getting the same treatment but they weren't).; However we had little choice because we were both working and couldn't do it ourselves.
Now I'm not working we can basically save £300 a month by me doing all the work and not having to have them on full livery 1 day a week. So this is good.
BUT I am really struggling to manage both the practicalities and the politics of the turnout situation.
Our horses are turned out in a field that is a 5 minute walk from the yard which is fine. But it's quite exposed with no natural or man-made shelter. The field is further divided into smaller paddocks by electric fencing and our pair have their own paddock. The gate to their paddock happens to be at pretty much the lowest point in the entire field and is always quite damp anyway. BUT our horses have decided that they are going to fret at the gateway (run up and down and paw the ground etc) when they think it's time to come in and as such they have made a complete mess of it - even after the recent dry spell they could still sink in up to their knees in parts.
The horses have had this behaviour reinforced because the yard have been bringing them in whenever they are doing it (into a nice warm stable with hay in!); which has made the behaviours worse to the point where I can't turn them out for an hour while I muck out without someone coming and telling me my horses "look ready to come in". Even on nice days and even appropriately rugged on less nice days. When I have managed to get away from the yard before this happens I have come back to find that someone has fetched them in for me.
Obviously the behaviours peaks when there is someone in the field bringing other horses in - and because most of the horses around them are under the control of the yard they come in at lunchtime and sometimes earlier. I have been completely unable to get my horses out early enough in order to get them in before they are wound up by the others coming in... the yard either turnout at 7.30am or the horses they turnout don't get 4 hours basically...
I admit I have totally given up for a time and just put the poor buggers in the school to stretch their legs every day. I hate it, I want my horses to have as much turnout as possible and I hate myself for doing it but I keep getting to the point where I'm on the verge of a panic attack when turning them out and as soon as anyone says they are fretting at the gateway I burst into tears. And it makes it harder to actually go to the yard at all because the indecision about what to do every day freaks me out.
The yard have made it very clear that they do not like the state the field has gotten into. Yet everything we have suggested they could do to help us solve the problem has been dismissed. Move the gateway? They'll just churn up the new spot (I actually think they wouldn't because they come to the side nearest the big field gate... where the paddock gate also happens to be...) Fence of the whole churned up area? They'll just churn up the next bit of field. Move them to a smaller field nearer the yard which is more sheltered and where they won't feel quite so on their own and would help break the habit due to the different location? A flat no, not possible.
Their solution? They'll help me bring them in and out. As if the problem is me not being able to handle them to and from the field... To be honest I think they just want me to get them to bring them in and out all the time again. Which costs us money. And I just think that some individuals just want to be as in control and interfere with things around them as much as possible...
On Friday I got told that they were ready to come in but by the time I got up there they seemed settled again, or at least thinking about being settled again until I appeared of course. So I do think just leaving them to it and sod the field would actually solve the problem long term - once they don't get their behaviour at the gate reinforced by being brought in and given hay.... But it's managing to achieve that without breaking down crying cos someone is pushy about my horses being ready to come in if I'm there or actually ending up with them being brought in when I'm not there.
I have also decided that when I bring them in they will never go straight to their stables - I will put them out in the school for half an hour OR if that isn't possible and they really must go to their stables there will be no hay for them for at least an hour. So coming in is a less positive experience (at this point in time I'd be less stressed out if it took be half an hour to catch them everday! Seriously.)
There's a whole load of detail missing here but I think I've got to the main important points, I think.
I really want my horses to get more turn out even if the damn horses don't actually think they WANT more turnout! :frown:
Has anyone got any advice? Any new perspective? Please be constructive, I feel so fragile about this. :unsure: