OH and I have always had a sketchy plan that I would return to my old job after my Mat leave ended. My old job is full time, I enquired about it being part time back earlier in the year with my boss and was told no due to the size of the team I manage, but a less senior position could maybe be possible.
Came away to think about and thought that I wouldnt particularly like to do that (given who my new manager would be), and would give full time work a go back in my old role.
With one thing and another the time is now drawing near about me returning to work and having to let my employer know for certain about what I'm going to do.
I'm really really torn, part of me does want to return to work, but not that particually happy with my daughter being in child care for all that time. Now I should add at this point, that she'll be 14 months when she starts going to nursery and it'll be for 3 mornings a week to start off with, and I thought going up to 5 days when she is 19 months old (nursery day will be 9 - 3).
OR there is an option of me just stopping work altogether for 2 years, carry on with my studies, but I would still put her in nursery but for 2 mornings only a week, no more. And possibly look to do something from home. But if I do this, how hard will it be for me get my foot back on the ladder after having that time off, it's hard enough for women my age to get a job, as it's screams - '30, only here til she has another child, earmark her for possible unreliability for child illnesses etc' especially if I have dropped to part time work.I know this is the attitude as I hear it ALL the time in the profession I'm in.
Both options are going round and round in my head and I'm finding it harder to make my mind up, I'm set on returning to work one minute, giving it a go then thinking, nah Baby J needs her mum at home.
I suppose it doesnt help that I dont know anyone at all with a youngster who has put them in nursery nearly full time and returned to work, those that have returned have nearly always gone back part time, or if full time, their child is only in nursery for 2 days a week max with their family helping out with child care. Which is not a viable option in my case.
Just having a ramble really, but would appreciate any experiences from other NR mummies who have had a baby, did you return to work ? Or stay at home ?
On the up side, I have a fabulous husband who is taking over child care whilst she is still young whilst I return to work (for when she is not in nursery), and I'm able to keep my horse, but even that is having a question mark due to how much spare time (if any) once I make my mind up.
It's hard to know what the best thing to do is
ETA : Only one baby in this household as well no more planned !
Came away to think about and thought that I wouldnt particularly like to do that (given who my new manager would be), and would give full time work a go back in my old role.
With one thing and another the time is now drawing near about me returning to work and having to let my employer know for certain about what I'm going to do.
I'm really really torn, part of me does want to return to work, but not that particually happy with my daughter being in child care for all that time. Now I should add at this point, that she'll be 14 months when she starts going to nursery and it'll be for 3 mornings a week to start off with, and I thought going up to 5 days when she is 19 months old (nursery day will be 9 - 3).
OR there is an option of me just stopping work altogether for 2 years, carry on with my studies, but I would still put her in nursery but for 2 mornings only a week, no more. And possibly look to do something from home. But if I do this, how hard will it be for me get my foot back on the ladder after having that time off, it's hard enough for women my age to get a job, as it's screams - '30, only here til she has another child, earmark her for possible unreliability for child illnesses etc' especially if I have dropped to part time work.I know this is the attitude as I hear it ALL the time in the profession I'm in.
Both options are going round and round in my head and I'm finding it harder to make my mind up, I'm set on returning to work one minute, giving it a go then thinking, nah Baby J needs her mum at home.
I suppose it doesnt help that I dont know anyone at all with a youngster who has put them in nursery nearly full time and returned to work, those that have returned have nearly always gone back part time, or if full time, their child is only in nursery for 2 days a week max with their family helping out with child care. Which is not a viable option in my case.
Just having a ramble really, but would appreciate any experiences from other NR mummies who have had a baby, did you return to work ? Or stay at home ?
On the up side, I have a fabulous husband who is taking over child care whilst she is still young whilst I return to work (for when she is not in nursery), and I'm able to keep my horse, but even that is having a question mark due to how much spare time (if any) once I make my mind up.
It's hard to know what the best thing to do is
ETA : Only one baby in this household as well no more planned !
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