My ponies are way down my list of priorities and I'm struggling.
My hubby phoned my yardmate and she has kindly been haying and feeding my 2 ponies for me this week as I can't get out at the moment. My principle for feeding is that they never run out of hay when there is snow on the ground (they are out 24/7 but usually don't even get hay as I have grass) but do get a token feed of chaff to mix their pink powder in. When I'd recovered enough I called her yesterday to make sure she didn't overfeed or worry as they both are rugless (James had called her as he wasn't coping) and temps are dropping to -8c overnight and Joy has a neck and belly clip. I explained that since the end of summer Joy has gone from being a healthly 460kgs to over 520kgs purely because she pigs out on hay!My yardmate worked out that my 2 ponies eat the same amount of 'bucket feed' over 2 months as her horse does in one winters day!
I can't wait to get back down the yard again as it's usually the thing that keeps me together. Things haven't been easy since Autumn. First my mums cancer was back so there was my mum's radiotherapy, then the first bout of snow, then 2 weeks of solid decorating so we have a room to use for Christmas, then the second bout of snow which is obviously still ongoing, my father-in-law has had a stroke and he's still in hospital and deemed unable to return to his own home. He is left with deminished mental capacity, then I had proper flu of the kind where you actually hurt all over and can't get out of bed even if you wanted to. Then on Monday morning I sneezed and put my back out and the doctor had to be called as I couldn't move and was in angony. I haven't left the house since Saturday morning and am not able to do so today.
My hubby called my farrier on Monday as he was due yesterday and he still came out in my absense and got my ponies in to trim them - such a gent and I'm so grateful. I'd already spoken to him last week before all this kicked off with my health to ask him to pull Joys shoes as I haven't ridden since the last time she was shod and very little before that too.
I now have my father-in-laws large house to do up to sell/rent in the new year so it's not looking likely that I'll be riding again until at least early spring :cry: On the bright side I'll be getting boots and making a proper commited effort to take her barefoot when she starts work again. I didn't do it properly last time and was doomed to fail as a consequence.
I really have had enough. I last saw my ponies on Saturday morning and it's been flying visits for weeks and weeks before that. Hubby is hopefully going to drive me up to them tomorrow so I can at least see them for myself but I don't think he'll have the time and I don;t want to push him. My mum can't help as although in my home town we are snow/ice free my yard is 13 miles away and conditions are bad that side of the hill and she only has a little 206 which wouldn't make it there and she isn't on my car insurance. She's been doing so much for me though and has been taking my daughter everyday so I don't know what I'd have done without her. I wish I didn't need to get James to take me as he is trying to hold down his demanding job, visit his dad everyday in hospital plus him and his sister now have enduring power of attorney and are trying to get dad's financial affairs sorted and buy him a retirement flat ASAP so dad can be released from hospital. Needless to say, however I feel at the moment things are 100 times worse for him and I'm just adding to his problems at the moment instead of helping him :cry:
Poor dad is now living in the past and thinking he's at school (he was an old school master, very insistant he was NOT a teacher, but retired 10 years ago), that his dad and wife are still alive and not knowing he's in hospital. He'd forget his offsprings names and told Hilary that Hilary had been in earlier as he didn't recognise her but tried to bluff his way out of it when she said that she was Hilary. Yesterday my hubby said he thoguht they were all at a railway station :cry:
I'm concerned that even when the retirement flat is bought so he can come out that even with social services involved he'll need something more because of his mental health needs. Obviously all we seem to see from the authorities is a rush to get him discharged from hospital and he does the list of 20 questions in their assessment ok so I'm not convinced they realise the true extent of the problem. In fact the occupational health lady told him last week she saw no reason why he shouldn't go home and I had to get heavy with her and insist on a home visit and explain that his ramblings about grandad doing his washing for him related to his dad who had been dead for years! When she saw his house and realised he would actually be living alone in it she changed her mind immediately! At least with him being stuck in an elderly care ward they have more time to realise just how bad things are despite the fact that he can tell you who the prime minister is.
We've all seen the TV programmes where people hord and refuse to spend money, he's the last of his familly and they all did it. He wears clothes that are only fit for the bin but has wardrobes of stuff which hasn't been out of the packets. His house needs everything doing to it and is going to be a huge project. I'm just glad I can out my talents to something that can benefit him.
Thank god my ponies are physically hard as nails and I have a very understanding yard mate. I feel dreadful though as I'm not use to needing others to to help me and the ponies are way down on my list of priorities and will remain so for some time to come.
Worse than that I'm really worried about my hubby. He's got so much to deal with at the moment and even when he does get a chance to sit down in the evening he's still milling about trying to find things to do to keep himself busy. I can see the signs that he's slowly falling apart and that once things are sorted out and he has more time for himself that this is what will happen. He can't maintain the pace of life he has now as it would be impossible. Things are really hard for us at the moment and watching the people I love most in the world struggling to keep it together is really difficult, especially when I've been helpless myself and adding to his problems. oop:
I've also returned to my old binge eating days and gained 1 1/2 stone in a month and am fat again.
My hubby phoned my yardmate and she has kindly been haying and feeding my 2 ponies for me this week as I can't get out at the moment. My principle for feeding is that they never run out of hay when there is snow on the ground (they are out 24/7 but usually don't even get hay as I have grass) but do get a token feed of chaff to mix their pink powder in. When I'd recovered enough I called her yesterday to make sure she didn't overfeed or worry as they both are rugless (James had called her as he wasn't coping) and temps are dropping to -8c overnight and Joy has a neck and belly clip. I explained that since the end of summer Joy has gone from being a healthly 460kgs to over 520kgs purely because she pigs out on hay!My yardmate worked out that my 2 ponies eat the same amount of 'bucket feed' over 2 months as her horse does in one winters day!
I can't wait to get back down the yard again as it's usually the thing that keeps me together. Things haven't been easy since Autumn. First my mums cancer was back so there was my mum's radiotherapy, then the first bout of snow, then 2 weeks of solid decorating so we have a room to use for Christmas, then the second bout of snow which is obviously still ongoing, my father-in-law has had a stroke and he's still in hospital and deemed unable to return to his own home. He is left with deminished mental capacity, then I had proper flu of the kind where you actually hurt all over and can't get out of bed even if you wanted to. Then on Monday morning I sneezed and put my back out and the doctor had to be called as I couldn't move and was in angony. I haven't left the house since Saturday morning and am not able to do so today.
My hubby called my farrier on Monday as he was due yesterday and he still came out in my absense and got my ponies in to trim them - such a gent and I'm so grateful. I'd already spoken to him last week before all this kicked off with my health to ask him to pull Joys shoes as I haven't ridden since the last time she was shod and very little before that too.
I now have my father-in-laws large house to do up to sell/rent in the new year so it's not looking likely that I'll be riding again until at least early spring :cry: On the bright side I'll be getting boots and making a proper commited effort to take her barefoot when she starts work again. I didn't do it properly last time and was doomed to fail as a consequence.
I really have had enough. I last saw my ponies on Saturday morning and it's been flying visits for weeks and weeks before that. Hubby is hopefully going to drive me up to them tomorrow so I can at least see them for myself but I don't think he'll have the time and I don;t want to push him. My mum can't help as although in my home town we are snow/ice free my yard is 13 miles away and conditions are bad that side of the hill and she only has a little 206 which wouldn't make it there and she isn't on my car insurance. She's been doing so much for me though and has been taking my daughter everyday so I don't know what I'd have done without her. I wish I didn't need to get James to take me as he is trying to hold down his demanding job, visit his dad everyday in hospital plus him and his sister now have enduring power of attorney and are trying to get dad's financial affairs sorted and buy him a retirement flat ASAP so dad can be released from hospital. Needless to say, however I feel at the moment things are 100 times worse for him and I'm just adding to his problems at the moment instead of helping him :cry:
Poor dad is now living in the past and thinking he's at school (he was an old school master, very insistant he was NOT a teacher, but retired 10 years ago), that his dad and wife are still alive and not knowing he's in hospital. He'd forget his offsprings names and told Hilary that Hilary had been in earlier as he didn't recognise her but tried to bluff his way out of it when she said that she was Hilary. Yesterday my hubby said he thoguht they were all at a railway station :cry:
I'm concerned that even when the retirement flat is bought so he can come out that even with social services involved he'll need something more because of his mental health needs. Obviously all we seem to see from the authorities is a rush to get him discharged from hospital and he does the list of 20 questions in their assessment ok so I'm not convinced they realise the true extent of the problem. In fact the occupational health lady told him last week she saw no reason why he shouldn't go home and I had to get heavy with her and insist on a home visit and explain that his ramblings about grandad doing his washing for him related to his dad who had been dead for years! When she saw his house and realised he would actually be living alone in it she changed her mind immediately! At least with him being stuck in an elderly care ward they have more time to realise just how bad things are despite the fact that he can tell you who the prime minister is.
We've all seen the TV programmes where people hord and refuse to spend money, he's the last of his familly and they all did it. He wears clothes that are only fit for the bin but has wardrobes of stuff which hasn't been out of the packets. His house needs everything doing to it and is going to be a huge project. I'm just glad I can out my talents to something that can benefit him.
Thank god my ponies are physically hard as nails and I have a very understanding yard mate. I feel dreadful though as I'm not use to needing others to to help me and the ponies are way down on my list of priorities and will remain so for some time to come.
Worse than that I'm really worried about my hubby. He's got so much to deal with at the moment and even when he does get a chance to sit down in the evening he's still milling about trying to find things to do to keep himself busy. I can see the signs that he's slowly falling apart and that once things are sorted out and he has more time for himself that this is what will happen. He can't maintain the pace of life he has now as it would be impossible. Things are really hard for us at the moment and watching the people I love most in the world struggling to keep it together is really difficult, especially when I've been helpless myself and adding to his problems. oop:
I've also returned to my old binge eating days and gained 1 1/2 stone in a month and am fat again.
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