WARNING VERY LONG POST!! Ok so I'm 44 and have not ridden for 10 years (previously had my own horses TB) - so my 14 yr old daughter has been hounding me for a horse for AGES! but I said "no I haven't got time to be going twice a day turning out/bringing in mucking out etc" - she is suffering from PTSD these last 2 years after the Manchester Arena Attack (I won't go into detail) but has become a recluse, so I thought maybe getting a mother/daughter share might be a good idea, she can't ride but I can, so thought Ok maybe get a cob little hardier than can live out (obviously we will go every day) but thought her bonding and grooming it, I could exercise it while she has some lessons etc etc - I hope you get my thinking.
So went to try this 14:2hh 5 yr old cob "Moo" (yes she's black and white and looks like a cow lol) - she was lovely and calm in the stable, girl rode her in ménage, lovely walking nice trotting she did a little canter stop straight away beautiful. My daughter rode her (on the lead rope) around the ménage then we went for a hack down the lanes lovely. I was told she would be great for a novice to learn on she's calm etc so I thought great this is the medicine we need. I might add we don't want to do shows pony clubs etc this is just another family member to look after, love give lots of TLC and gentle hack out.
She arrived one week ago (Tuesday) and for the first 3 days spent loads of time trying to bond with her grooming etc first she wouldn't let me brush her tail and back feet but then stood beautifully for me the day after to do this and I thought great she's settled in lovely. We've been talking her around the yard and the paddock so she can see where she is. So Saturday I thought tack her up and walk her around the spare paddock (which we can ride in). Tacked her up great no problems, walked her around the paddock, circles figures of 8 etc lovely, I thought ok so I'll ride her around the paddock now, great walked around little trot etc lovely. So my daughter wanted a go, mmmmm ok then so she got on I lead her around the paddock little walk etc lovely, not for long, so then my 16yr old son said "can I have a walk around on her"... errrmmm ok then and as soon as he sat his bum on her she reared planted front two feet down and bucked him off.... he was fine got straight back up and said "can I get on again".... I really didn't want him to but thought you know riding a bike fall off get back on, so he did, this time she stood, so I thought one circle walk then I want him off that's enough for today... we only did about 3 steps and she bucked him off again and bolted.... she stood for me to walk to her to get her...
Did I do too much with her on that one day? even though riding her wasn't actually for very long but with 3 of us on and off her back????
So Sunday I tacked her up again and walked her around the same paddock (not riding her) _ I tried to lung her but she just stood as if to say I really don't know what you want me to do, so just carried on walking her around. Did this same yesterday tacked her up walked her around the paddock she was snorting a little and still very wary in this paddock looking around, but I thought I need to get on this horse because now I'm scared, I got on her and she was a little on edge, I tried to keep really calm and talk to her and walked one circle, she put her head down once and I thought OH NO I'M OFF but I just kept saying steady girl and she brought her head back up, she was walking fast and not relaxed... so after just one circle I got off.
But I must admit I'm really scared to get on this horse I'm petrified she's gonna buck me off my confidence has gone POOF! out of the window.
Any advice PLEEEEEEEEEASEEEEE - I have a friend coming on Thursday to lunge her for me.
I know it's only been 1 week but I read so many post "get straight on the horse don't do settling in time etc etc"
So went to try this 14:2hh 5 yr old cob "Moo" (yes she's black and white and looks like a cow lol) - she was lovely and calm in the stable, girl rode her in ménage, lovely walking nice trotting she did a little canter stop straight away beautiful. My daughter rode her (on the lead rope) around the ménage then we went for a hack down the lanes lovely. I was told she would be great for a novice to learn on she's calm etc so I thought great this is the medicine we need. I might add we don't want to do shows pony clubs etc this is just another family member to look after, love give lots of TLC and gentle hack out.
She arrived one week ago (Tuesday) and for the first 3 days spent loads of time trying to bond with her grooming etc first she wouldn't let me brush her tail and back feet but then stood beautifully for me the day after to do this and I thought great she's settled in lovely. We've been talking her around the yard and the paddock so she can see where she is. So Saturday I thought tack her up and walk her around the spare paddock (which we can ride in). Tacked her up great no problems, walked her around the paddock, circles figures of 8 etc lovely, I thought ok so I'll ride her around the paddock now, great walked around little trot etc lovely. So my daughter wanted a go, mmmmm ok then so she got on I lead her around the paddock little walk etc lovely, not for long, so then my 16yr old son said "can I have a walk around on her"... errrmmm ok then and as soon as he sat his bum on her she reared planted front two feet down and bucked him off.... he was fine got straight back up and said "can I get on again".... I really didn't want him to but thought you know riding a bike fall off get back on, so he did, this time she stood, so I thought one circle walk then I want him off that's enough for today... we only did about 3 steps and she bucked him off again and bolted.... she stood for me to walk to her to get her...
Did I do too much with her on that one day? even though riding her wasn't actually for very long but with 3 of us on and off her back????
So Sunday I tacked her up again and walked her around the same paddock (not riding her) _ I tried to lung her but she just stood as if to say I really don't know what you want me to do, so just carried on walking her around. Did this same yesterday tacked her up walked her around the paddock she was snorting a little and still very wary in this paddock looking around, but I thought I need to get on this horse because now I'm scared, I got on her and she was a little on edge, I tried to keep really calm and talk to her and walked one circle, she put her head down once and I thought OH NO I'M OFF but I just kept saying steady girl and she brought her head back up, she was walking fast and not relaxed... so after just one circle I got off.
But I must admit I'm really scared to get on this horse I'm petrified she's gonna buck me off my confidence has gone POOF! out of the window.
Any advice PLEEEEEEEEEASEEEEE - I have a friend coming on Thursday to lunge her for me.
I know it's only been 1 week but I read so many post "get straight on the horse don't do settling in time etc etc"