Hi All, I used to be on this forum many years ago I'm not sure if many will remember me but I'm back so I just wanted to check back in to say Hello, and also get some advice and words of wisdom.
Basically, my story is; Mid teens I sold all my last pony due to my Mum passing away. Since then I've always worked long hours and if I'm completely honest getting another hasn't ever interested me up until this point.
I'm 26 years old, no children, I have my own house with my partner, no plans on children anytime soon. I've recently started a new job which means I'm home for about 3/4 everyday Mon-Fri with 1 day working from home a week. (Great I know)I suffer on and off with my metal heath and I always have since I lost my Mum, nothing serious but I do lack motivation massively which I'd say has worsened in the last 2 years, I have absolutely no interest in anything, I have no hobbies. I do have friends and do I enjoy socialising, but other than that I really don't do a great deal. I have a partner, but we don't do all that much other than spent time at home, we also have 2 dogs that are literally like our children so we spend a lot of time looking after them and walking.
Most mornings, weekend or weekdays I really struggle to find the motivation to get out of bed. I snooze my alarm probably 7 times and wait till the latest possible moment to get out of bed. After work all I feel like doing is getting on the sofa and napping, or watching tv. I know it bothers my OH, to the point he tells me it'd not healthy and regularly encourages me to do things, but if I'm honest I just cant be arsed. I'm so uninterested in anything.
I've put a lot of thought into it and I do think having my own horse would solve possibly a lot of this, I.E Getting me out of bed in the morning, something to do after work, exercise, socializing, a bond etc... However I am also worried it could have the opposite effect.
I'm absolutely terrified of the commitment I'm not going to lie, I refuse to pay Full/Part livery so I would be going DIY which would mean twice a day eevvveeerrryyyday but I really feel like it would do me the world of good. My days spend as a teen with my ponies are honestly some of the BEST memories of my life, but I do find as adults its common to try to cling to childhood memories that used to bring joy, but it's just not the same anymore. I'm going back for riding lessons starting tomorrow to ensure its still something I do enjoy doing and I will make a decision from the back of that, but I'd love to know other peoples thoughts on how their horses have helped them in life whether that's with mental health or something else. My partner thinks its a great idea and is really supportive of it, he even said he will help out in the evenings and weekends.
I know some people may suggest a loan or share - completely agree and I think it'd be a great idea, but I cant find anything ANYWHERE! The kind of pony I want (school master, confidence giver) I feel are so difficult to find, even to buy never mind loan or share! Also I do like things doing my own way so I'm just not sure it'd work...
Look forward to catching up with you guys and hearing your thoughts
Elle xxx
Basically, my story is; Mid teens I sold all my last pony due to my Mum passing away. Since then I've always worked long hours and if I'm completely honest getting another hasn't ever interested me up until this point.
I'm 26 years old, no children, I have my own house with my partner, no plans on children anytime soon. I've recently started a new job which means I'm home for about 3/4 everyday Mon-Fri with 1 day working from home a week. (Great I know)I suffer on and off with my metal heath and I always have since I lost my Mum, nothing serious but I do lack motivation massively which I'd say has worsened in the last 2 years, I have absolutely no interest in anything, I have no hobbies. I do have friends and do I enjoy socialising, but other than that I really don't do a great deal. I have a partner, but we don't do all that much other than spent time at home, we also have 2 dogs that are literally like our children so we spend a lot of time looking after them and walking.
Most mornings, weekend or weekdays I really struggle to find the motivation to get out of bed. I snooze my alarm probably 7 times and wait till the latest possible moment to get out of bed. After work all I feel like doing is getting on the sofa and napping, or watching tv. I know it bothers my OH, to the point he tells me it'd not healthy and regularly encourages me to do things, but if I'm honest I just cant be arsed. I'm so uninterested in anything.
I've put a lot of thought into it and I do think having my own horse would solve possibly a lot of this, I.E Getting me out of bed in the morning, something to do after work, exercise, socializing, a bond etc... However I am also worried it could have the opposite effect.
I'm absolutely terrified of the commitment I'm not going to lie, I refuse to pay Full/Part livery so I would be going DIY which would mean twice a day eevvveeerrryyyday but I really feel like it would do me the world of good. My days spend as a teen with my ponies are honestly some of the BEST memories of my life, but I do find as adults its common to try to cling to childhood memories that used to bring joy, but it's just not the same anymore. I'm going back for riding lessons starting tomorrow to ensure its still something I do enjoy doing and I will make a decision from the back of that, but I'd love to know other peoples thoughts on how their horses have helped them in life whether that's with mental health or something else. My partner thinks its a great idea and is really supportive of it, he even said he will help out in the evenings and weekends.
I know some people may suggest a loan or share - completely agree and I think it'd be a great idea, but I cant find anything ANYWHERE! The kind of pony I want (school master, confidence giver) I feel are so difficult to find, even to buy never mind loan or share! Also I do like things doing my own way so I'm just not sure it'd work...
Look forward to catching up with you guys and hearing your thoughts
Elle xxx