To cut a very long story short, I attended a 4 hour NLP/hypnosis confidence session last week. It was truly amazing. I learnt more than I ever thought possible and have ended up with a whole new perspective on riding. The fear that I used to carry with me as a result of my accident 23 years ago has completely gone. It has vanished and now I am sitting much deeper in the saddle, no longer lean forward when I feel fear and feel like a completely different rider. I have a new understanding of horses and hope that this will be a new me.
On the course I managed to hack Ben down the bottom of one of our lanes, past all scary objects and right next to a hay cutting machine. Ben seemed happy and relaxed. I came away from the course feeling very positive that I might be able to hack without fear.
The next evening I was all alone at the yard and with my new found confidence I thought that I would repeat the hack I did on the course. We got to a certain point where I thought he may be a bit spooky and he stopped. I felt no fear, sat deep in the saddle and pushed him on. This resulted in him doing a 180 degree spin and I fell off!
Why is it always one step forward and two steps back? Since the weekend I have been so upset that he did this and I feel that I have lost my trust in him. I took him out jumping at the weekend and he was great, but last night I went into one of our back fields. I really do have none of the old fear that I used to have with me, but I felt that he was spooky and hesitant. We got to a washing line where he went to plant and I dismounted, not because I felt my old fear, but because I was worried he may spin again.
It is like now I have improved my riding position (and I really have), he is confused and acting like a spooky crazy horse. This wasn't supposed to happen. My new position and confidence was supposed to make him go forward nicely and do what I asked of him. Now that I have finally dropped my fear I seem to be left with a horse who doesn't want to hack anyway. Maybe he has always been like this and I have been too self absorbed in myself to notice. My yard manager hacked him for my on Sunday to make sure that he wouldn't spin again and she said that he was tense and hesitant so it's not just me. I guess that after 3 years of not hacking, he needs to build up his confidence as well - I am just so upset as I didn't even consider that this may happen.
Thanks for reading my essay, I am very confused, ache from head to toe from riding in a different way and don't know what I want anymore. If he doesn't want to hack out, then I am not that bothered either. I was only doing it for him.
On the course I managed to hack Ben down the bottom of one of our lanes, past all scary objects and right next to a hay cutting machine. Ben seemed happy and relaxed. I came away from the course feeling very positive that I might be able to hack without fear.
The next evening I was all alone at the yard and with my new found confidence I thought that I would repeat the hack I did on the course. We got to a certain point where I thought he may be a bit spooky and he stopped. I felt no fear, sat deep in the saddle and pushed him on. This resulted in him doing a 180 degree spin and I fell off!
Why is it always one step forward and two steps back? Since the weekend I have been so upset that he did this and I feel that I have lost my trust in him. I took him out jumping at the weekend and he was great, but last night I went into one of our back fields. I really do have none of the old fear that I used to have with me, but I felt that he was spooky and hesitant. We got to a washing line where he went to plant and I dismounted, not because I felt my old fear, but because I was worried he may spin again.
It is like now I have improved my riding position (and I really have), he is confused and acting like a spooky crazy horse. This wasn't supposed to happen. My new position and confidence was supposed to make him go forward nicely and do what I asked of him. Now that I have finally dropped my fear I seem to be left with a horse who doesn't want to hack anyway. Maybe he has always been like this and I have been too self absorbed in myself to notice. My yard manager hacked him for my on Sunday to make sure that he wouldn't spin again and she said that he was tense and hesitant so it's not just me. I guess that after 3 years of not hacking, he needs to build up his confidence as well - I am just so upset as I didn't even consider that this may happen.
Thanks for reading my essay, I am very confused, ache from head to toe from riding in a different way and don't know what I want anymore. If he doesn't want to hack out, then I am not that bothered either. I was only doing it for him.