Hope no one minds me just putting this on here.
My mums not very well, she's waiting for a heart op but it's taking ages, she's really down just not interested in anything which isn't like her. And it's a serious op so I'm really worried about her having to have it. She's terrible in hospital and discharges herself far too early. And my Grandad is very unwell. He's been having dementia like symptoms for many months now, he doesn't really recognise me anymore. He's been refusing to see any doctors. This morning he was very distressed and convinced someone was trying to kill him. It's just so upsetting to get called by my mum in a complete state because she doesn't know what to do about him. Today they finally managed to convince him to go to the doctors and he's failed all the dementia tests but they also think he might of had a stroke. He was told to go straight to A&E but wouldn't listen. My mum said they are going to take him tomorrow but I can just see him refusing again, he gets very angry. It's so difficult for my mum, especially as she's not well herself. I just wish I could do more to help.
It's having such an effect on me worrying about it all. My confidence is so low, I avoid talking to people. I feel pretty useless. Tomorrow morning I'm heading home to help out if need be with getting Grandad to hospital. I know it needs to be done but I'm absolutely dreading it. Breaks my heart to see my mum so upset and she gets so angry with my Grandad, when it's not really his fault.
I just don't really know what to do but it helps just to put down in writing what's going on. I've spoken to a few people in real life but they just say that I shouldn't worry about the op as they are common now or that I'm lucky to still have my grandparents. I realise I am lucky yes but I can't help feeling like this, just powerless to do anything helpful.
Any advice appreciated especially if anyone has any experience of dementia as think that will hit my mum hard if he's diagnosed (even though he's clearly not been right for a long time)
My mums not very well, she's waiting for a heart op but it's taking ages, she's really down just not interested in anything which isn't like her. And it's a serious op so I'm really worried about her having to have it. She's terrible in hospital and discharges herself far too early. And my Grandad is very unwell. He's been having dementia like symptoms for many months now, he doesn't really recognise me anymore. He's been refusing to see any doctors. This morning he was very distressed and convinced someone was trying to kill him. It's just so upsetting to get called by my mum in a complete state because she doesn't know what to do about him. Today they finally managed to convince him to go to the doctors and he's failed all the dementia tests but they also think he might of had a stroke. He was told to go straight to A&E but wouldn't listen. My mum said they are going to take him tomorrow but I can just see him refusing again, he gets very angry. It's so difficult for my mum, especially as she's not well herself. I just wish I could do more to help.
It's having such an effect on me worrying about it all. My confidence is so low, I avoid talking to people. I feel pretty useless. Tomorrow morning I'm heading home to help out if need be with getting Grandad to hospital. I know it needs to be done but I'm absolutely dreading it. Breaks my heart to see my mum so upset and she gets so angry with my Grandad, when it's not really his fault.
I just don't really know what to do but it helps just to put down in writing what's going on. I've spoken to a few people in real life but they just say that I shouldn't worry about the op as they are common now or that I'm lucky to still have my grandparents. I realise I am lucky yes but I can't help feeling like this, just powerless to do anything helpful.
Any advice appreciated especially if anyone has any experience of dementia as think that will hit my mum hard if he's diagnosed (even though he's clearly not been right for a long time)