Have to find a new farrier...
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Oh dear. Sorry to hear you are having problems - yards are such and up and down thing. I think they go through periods of having things like the yard bully etc. I can't offer much advice, just sympathy. Hope you find somehwere new if you decide to leave. I know you shouldn't have to, but sometimes it is just for the best as you spend time there to be happy, not miffed all the time and cheesed off.
Oh Innocence this should not be happening. Go and speak to the yard owner. This is your hobby and you should be enjoying it not having to worry about going to see your horses.
I feel for you as this nearly happened to me when I stood my ground and now the tables have completely turned on the bullies
I feel for you as this nearly happened to me when I stood my ground and now the tables have completely turned on the bullies
Well my farrier is coming out tonight to do my horses and we will discuss the situation further, don't see why my horses should suffer because of someones stupidity! Will hopefully catch YO too as i go up the yard at 5am and am on my own till 2 others arrive.
Never back down from bullies. If you stand up to them you will find them crumple as you are not doing what they expect you to do. Nobody but the YO has the right to get you off the yard, certainly not cowardly fellow liveries. No idea what they have done to cause you to need to get a new farrier but wish you good luck in finding a suitable one soon.
Omg this is so happening t me over the last 7 months....I am dreading going to yard in a bit so I'm taking a friend with me. Everyone blanked me yesterday then I saw they were all being involved in 'teaching' this horse to load by beating the crap out of her (I did 6 months of work last summer in a NH way and she was amazing, walks straight on my trailer, we were just struggling with locking her in. I currently HATE being there, feel stuck as not a good time to move for personal reasons. I've decided I am NEVER helping anyone again. I wasted so many hours getting this horse confident to watch it all be undone within 10 mins. Screw them!
Sorry went off topic there! I hope you get to speak with your YO
It is a wonder livery yards manage to make any money and stay full - there seems to be so much unpleasantness on a lot of them. We were lucky, but maybe if we'd been on a yard for longer things would be different. There must be a market for small parcels of land to rent out individually. Wish I had plenty of money - I would invest in something like that long term.
4 people (6 horses), including myself and my horse, left my old livery yard at the weekend - speaks volumes really doesn't it!
Heck yes it does. By the sounds of it people seem to get forced away just because of one or two mean people. So wrong - we are all grown up, why why?
There seems to be so much bitching on a lot of livery yards. It begs the question just how able are these YO'ers to actually run a livery yard?Surely it is in their own best interest to run a happy and safe yard for their customers? Do they just pretend it isnt happening or what?:unsure:
I think that is often (not always) the case. It would be good if it was possible to have some sort of rules and laws regarding these things, like when you are at work or school or whatever. Perhaps I should post that on the QOD thread.
I hope you get things sorted Innocence, it is not nice, when all people want to do is enjoy their horses, not have a minefield of politics to deal with.
We have a number of yards in our area which to the 'knowing' are no go areas. Others are generally ok excpect for the odd fall out. I think a great deal of it stems from overcrowded conditions here and the weather has certainly not helped with so many being stuck with horses stabled 24/7.
If its anything like round here then spaces for anywhere are like gold dust, even crappy run down yards with very restricted turnout.
I've been on a yard for a while where I dreaded going up so I can sympathise with you.... I honestly can't remember whether things got so bad that I moved or whether the ghastly family did :redface:
Just remember, horses take up a lot of our time and money so are supposed to be enjoyable. If you are not happy, then it's time to start looking to move.
Good luck with your YO xx
Just remember, horses take up a lot of our time and money so are supposed to be enjoyable. If you are not happy, then it's time to start looking to move.
Good luck with your YO xx
It's because of his ex that caused all the trouble, by saying that he said things about me etc.
I spoke to my farrier last night and he's just as gobsmacked as i am about everything and we both have our suspicions about who is saying what. I have decided not to find a new farrier for the time being.
Bitter, jealous people have a lot to answer for! Told YO last night and he said to let him know if i get anymore threats and the people involved will be off.
It's sitations like this is why I keep to myself. I chat to people with a brief hello, but don't really socialise. I have with one person, but only after 4 years :redcarded: and even now I'm still guarded on just how much I do. I enjoy riding on my own and don't want company all the time. I won't ever rely on other people up at the yard, I prefer to manage circumstances myself or pay a freelance groom if I'm really stuck and had a horse living in.
It's awful when you see other people undoing what help you might have given to a horse in the past, I've been there myself. But learnt the hard way - don't get involved.
It's awful when you see other people undoing what help you might have given to a horse in the past, I've been there myself. But learnt the hard way - don't get involved.
Situations like this make me so glad I'm where I am, where I keep mine is a farm and we all rent fields, very surprisingly we ALL get on well. There are 8 of us, we have 14 horses between us and then there's the farmers 2 daughters who have 4. We all help if asked, nobody interferes but will give an opinion if asked. Many professionals who visit, EDT, farriers back lady etc have commented on it being one of very few yards that aren't bitchy. I love my yard, it's very basic but has very few rules and above all all the horses are happily living out 24/7
Trust me i am one of these people who keeps themselves to themselves, learnt the hard way from the last yard i was on. I go up do my things, say hello to anyone passing then go again. I don't get involved in yard politics, i've seen some right nasty arguments but i've stayed well clear.
The only reason i got dragged into this situation is because my farriers ex came up to me in tears when they separated telling me all about it etc. She told me not to say anything to anyone and i didn't, my farrier knew i knew and he was ok with that as he knows im not the type of person to gossip. Next thing i know im being royally slagged of round the yard by the ex, saying i was trying it on with farrier etc and trying to steal her sharer. I mean seriously what on earth was that about?? I'm still baffled now.
Also someone got hold of my number and started threatening me by text, no idea who and they wouldn't tell me, I don't suffer fools lightly and i certainly won't be bullied, so had it out with the farrier and his ex, both deny it so we think it's her sharer, she is a bit mental apparently!
The only reason i got dragged into this situation is because my farriers ex came up to me in tears when they separated telling me all about it etc. She told me not to say anything to anyone and i didn't, my farrier knew i knew and he was ok with that as he knows im not the type of person to gossip. Next thing i know im being royally slagged of round the yard by the ex, saying i was trying it on with farrier etc and trying to steal her sharer. I mean seriously what on earth was that about?? I'm still baffled now.
Also someone got hold of my number and started threatening me by text, no idea who and they wouldn't tell me, I don't suffer fools lightly and i certainly won't be bullied, so had it out with the farrier and his ex, both deny it so we think it's her sharer, she is a bit mental apparently!
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