I felt so horrible today... hacked out with the girls (my daughter and her friend) and I basically **chickened out** on going further out... we just started hacking OUTSIDE the barn the last 2 weeks...building my confidence slowly... today the girls wanted to go a bit further out our usual trail... I felt uneasy as I was alone with the kids with no other "adult" with us... granted they ride A LOT better than this old lady... but I still felt unsure...
I stopped the hack only to want to head back home after a bit of a ** Nervous ** attack.... which I felt really stupid about afterwards...
I guess I was scared of being out alone... the cars, the dogs if they happen to come out barking... I just did not have the same confidence as I would have hacking with another adults "re-assurance"
The girls...well.... were being girls... wanting to go out further with no hesitations at all... and poor old mom was as I felt...pulling them back because of my own insecurity....
Although many riders tell me that if I felt "uncomfortable" at a situation, it is always best I follow my first instinct, instea of pushing a situation I am not ready for, hence causing more complications... I suppose I was worried that should anything happen... I was alone with the girls at a trail we've never been at...miles from the barn .... and well, you get the picture....
I dont feel comfortable letting my daughter ride out alone with her friend, as even if her friend is more experienced a rider, and she is too... she is on a 4 yo mare that still can be a bit naughty at times, and I feel that she should always take all precautions rather than thinking she is on an absolute bombproof horse... as she isnt. Fancy is well behaved, but given the opportunity..she can test her rider, and be quite uncooperative.
Ive been trailing round about a 10-15 minute trail alongside the barn area... and it's done great for my confidence~ BUT now I feel like the girls wants to advance further...and I am holding them back... On regular lessons, they only do their usual jumps, groundwork,flatwork stuff...and not much trailing...so their only real opportunity is along with me on days we go riding on our own outside of a lesson. A few boarders have come to ride along with us, which ofcourse makes me feel better.... but this does not happen all the time... I guess I am just feeling somewhat confused if I am being a total Nervous Nellie.... or am I just being right be heading my instincts to be more careful???
I stopped the hack only to want to head back home after a bit of a ** Nervous ** attack.... which I felt really stupid about afterwards...
I guess I was scared of being out alone... the cars, the dogs if they happen to come out barking... I just did not have the same confidence as I would have hacking with another adults "re-assurance"
The girls...well.... were being girls... wanting to go out further with no hesitations at all... and poor old mom was as I felt...pulling them back because of my own insecurity....
Although many riders tell me that if I felt "uncomfortable" at a situation, it is always best I follow my first instinct, instea of pushing a situation I am not ready for, hence causing more complications... I suppose I was worried that should anything happen... I was alone with the girls at a trail we've never been at...miles from the barn .... and well, you get the picture....
I dont feel comfortable letting my daughter ride out alone with her friend, as even if her friend is more experienced a rider, and she is too... she is on a 4 yo mare that still can be a bit naughty at times, and I feel that she should always take all precautions rather than thinking she is on an absolute bombproof horse... as she isnt. Fancy is well behaved, but given the opportunity..she can test her rider, and be quite uncooperative.
Ive been trailing round about a 10-15 minute trail alongside the barn area... and it's done great for my confidence~ BUT now I feel like the girls wants to advance further...and I am holding them back... On regular lessons, they only do their usual jumps, groundwork,flatwork stuff...and not much trailing...so their only real opportunity is along with me on days we go riding on our own outside of a lesson. A few boarders have come to ride along with us, which ofcourse makes me feel better.... but this does not happen all the time... I guess I am just feeling somewhat confused if I am being a total Nervous Nellie.... or am I just being right be heading my instincts to be more careful???