When i was with my ex i was desperate to get married. From about 1 year in i wanted that ring on my finger. 10 years down the line we never did it.
I am cautious about marriage. I've seen a fair few of my friends go through it. In the time my ex and i were together, one of our friends (a couple) got married, had a kid, got divorced and then both got remarried and now, between them, have 5 children. Scary! One of my very smug friends who blew a good 50k of daddy's money on her wedding is now divorced. Her hottie of an ex-husband got sick of her financial demands and she now has a sugar daddy. I suppose it's made me extra cautious. I want to make sure i marry once and that will be it. I'm even scared about dating the wrong guy which is why i'm probably quite fussy and get shot of the guys who bore me or don't totally float my boat. They are very nice and treat me like a princess but it isn't enough.
I also think weddings are an utter waste of money! it's one day, the important part is the lifetime you'll spend with your partner. THAT is priceless and what the focus should be. Believe me as someone who is trying to find her prince charming at a relatively old age (30!), appreciate what you have. A marriage certificate really isn't much in the grand scheme of things. I'd rather have a lifetime with my soulmate than a ring on my finger.