i feel a bit like a rolling-pin waving old woman writing in to points of view posting this, but i feel i really need to say it.
lately i've been absolutely appalled by some of the threads and responses to queries in this forum. there has been unasked-for and unnecessarily harsh criticism and a lot of nitpicking when posters have been asking about low-key shows and for helpful advice and encouragement, not to be torn to pieces.
not everyone cares enough about showing to turn out to a county level standard. what's more, there are no written rules about turnout, so when someone disagrees with you, it's not a personal attack and often they are not wrong - just because it's not how you would do things.
it's entirely possible to give advice and help improve someone's turnout nicely and constructively - there has been precious little of that happening lately.
showing has a bad enough image in the horsey world without people bitching and being snide - that is exactly the reptuation we don't want from people who take part in our discipline. i'd have been thoroughly put off if i'd been wanting to start out in showing and had gotten some of the responses i've seen on here recently.
nobody has to take anyone's advice. we offer it here as a gesture of goodwill, but people are entirely free to do as they please, and getting snitty about it doesn't inspire them to come back and ask for help later, even if they find out you were right.
if someone throws advice back in your face, chalk it up to experience, remember their username and don't reply to them again., it saves the blood pressure and avoids a lot of unnecessary fighting on the board and ruining of a pleasant atmosphere.
i show, and frankly i don't want my chosen discipline to be associated with the attitudes i have seen displayed here over the last few weeks in this forum.
it's not big, it's not clever, and nobody is impressed.
lately i've been absolutely appalled by some of the threads and responses to queries in this forum. there has been unasked-for and unnecessarily harsh criticism and a lot of nitpicking when posters have been asking about low-key shows and for helpful advice and encouragement, not to be torn to pieces.
not everyone cares enough about showing to turn out to a county level standard. what's more, there are no written rules about turnout, so when someone disagrees with you, it's not a personal attack and often they are not wrong - just because it's not how you would do things.
it's entirely possible to give advice and help improve someone's turnout nicely and constructively - there has been precious little of that happening lately.
showing has a bad enough image in the horsey world without people bitching and being snide - that is exactly the reptuation we don't want from people who take part in our discipline. i'd have been thoroughly put off if i'd been wanting to start out in showing and had gotten some of the responses i've seen on here recently.
nobody has to take anyone's advice. we offer it here as a gesture of goodwill, but people are entirely free to do as they please, and getting snitty about it doesn't inspire them to come back and ask for help later, even if they find out you were right.
if someone throws advice back in your face, chalk it up to experience, remember their username and don't reply to them again., it saves the blood pressure and avoids a lot of unnecessary fighting on the board and ruining of a pleasant atmosphere.
i show, and frankly i don't want my chosen discipline to be associated with the attitudes i have seen displayed here over the last few weeks in this forum.
it's not big, it's not clever, and nobody is impressed.