I've made the decision to get a sharer to help with Rubic. I'm so stressed and tired out with work just now, I'm doing overtime several times a week now rather than just a day here and there. I'm up early to sort her before work and by the time I get through work (sometimes without lunch if it's a particularly bad day) I have no energy or motivation to do much. The problem is that Rubic is a good-doer and if I slack off with her exercise she piles the weight on pretty quickly. Also I feel like everything I do with her is rushed. The only quality time I get to spend with her is the weekend and by that point I'm so knackered and have so much housework to do that I still rush things with her. I could also do with some help financially since the livery went up and we are coming into winter (also I just seem to be very good at spending all my money!).
I'm so nervous about the whole thing. I don't want to outright advertise her for fear of joyriders and time wasters and liars and was going to try and find someone through word of mouth instead. However last night I thought I'd look through some adverts from people looking for a horse to share. The first advert I came across seemed perfect. I emailed and got a reply straight back saying she'd be interested and would get back to be properly during the week as she was going away this weekend.
I hardly slept last night due to nerves. I'm so worried it could all go wrong for everyone involved. I know what the benefits could be though and I suppose I need to focus on them! The extra help will be great and will take away some pressure and stress eventually once everything is settled, Rubic will benefit from having someone different ride her perhaps with some new ideas and approaches, it means her weight will be kept down especially if she is ridden twice a few days a week eg. schooled during the day and I take her a light hack after work. I just need to chill out and stop being so possessive/over-protective/paranoid etc. My plan is to have the person up while I'm there for the first two weeks, maybe just keep to the weekends and an evening or something. The first time I'll catch her tack up etc ride then she can have a shot then after I'll just watch her, see how she is with Rubic and how Rubic is with her (since generally no-one else ever deals with her) and once I'm happy everything's ok we can sort out days she wants to come up and I can leave her to it. I suppose I just need some reassurance I'm doing the right thing and also some advice on things to look out for since this is the first time I've ever been involved in sharing a horse!
I'm so nervous about the whole thing. I don't want to outright advertise her for fear of joyriders and time wasters and liars and was going to try and find someone through word of mouth instead. However last night I thought I'd look through some adverts from people looking for a horse to share. The first advert I came across seemed perfect. I emailed and got a reply straight back saying she'd be interested and would get back to be properly during the week as she was going away this weekend.
I hardly slept last night due to nerves. I'm so worried it could all go wrong for everyone involved. I know what the benefits could be though and I suppose I need to focus on them! The extra help will be great and will take away some pressure and stress eventually once everything is settled, Rubic will benefit from having someone different ride her perhaps with some new ideas and approaches, it means her weight will be kept down especially if she is ridden twice a few days a week eg. schooled during the day and I take her a light hack after work. I just need to chill out and stop being so possessive/over-protective/paranoid etc. My plan is to have the person up while I'm there for the first two weeks, maybe just keep to the weekends and an evening or something. The first time I'll catch her tack up etc ride then she can have a shot then after I'll just watch her, see how she is with Rubic and how Rubic is with her (since generally no-one else ever deals with her) and once I'm happy everything's ok we can sort out days she wants to come up and I can leave her to it. I suppose I just need some reassurance I'm doing the right thing and also some advice on things to look out for since this is the first time I've ever been involved in sharing a horse!
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