For those of you that did not read my thread about feeling guilty because BM/field mate horse was in hospital and I was pleased as Chanter was now on the field on his own and not being bullied/bitten/kick out at any more and also my bad back was better and I could better monitor his grass/hay intake and Chanter and I had re-bonded with me as herd leader.
We B is back from the vets and I recommended that they are separated when B is turned out as he has a tube still sticking out of his face and bandage up, B also using Chanter to rug his head on and I thought it safer and fairer on Chanter as B would be only out for a couple of hours only.
There is a whole list of reasons why I wanted a fence put up to give then their own area. B has been home for one week and they are both settled in their separate fields, nether are bothered when they are brought in turnout. B is in at night and Chanter is out 24/7. As this was working out I told BM that I would like to keep them this way and explained all the reasons why.
OMG she went mental telling me that I was sick for waiting until B was at the vets being operated on and then removed his home and his friends:furious: what the FU%K. I have put up an electric fence (not even switched on) 3ft high they can still touch and see each other. I started that nothing else would change and I would still help her in the morning/evening etc.
She sent me some curt/rude/accusing emails then blanked me at the yard. I did explain that when push comes to shove MY horse needs to be happy and he was not he was stressed/panicking at feed/hay time and I was getting stressed.
Tonight she blanked OH and I again so I went to speak to her and said that I assume from her behavior that she now wants nothing to do with me and that out 3 year friendship is over. She said yes that was the case.
I really believe that she is being OTT over the whole thing it is just a fence and I made sure that B was settled in his half of the field before I mentioned it. If he had been unsettled or stressed over it I would have said anything. My other mates at the yard and OH cant believe how she is reacting.
I am gutted we were really good friends or so I thought. I didn't realise that friendship was one sided and as long as it suited her and her horse it was OK but the first time is does not suit me and Chanter I am suddenly the devil women.
Sorry I did not mean to go on cookies and drink of your choice for those that could be bothered to read
We B is back from the vets and I recommended that they are separated when B is turned out as he has a tube still sticking out of his face and bandage up, B also using Chanter to rug his head on and I thought it safer and fairer on Chanter as B would be only out for a couple of hours only.
There is a whole list of reasons why I wanted a fence put up to give then their own area. B has been home for one week and they are both settled in their separate fields, nether are bothered when they are brought in turnout. B is in at night and Chanter is out 24/7. As this was working out I told BM that I would like to keep them this way and explained all the reasons why.
OMG she went mental telling me that I was sick for waiting until B was at the vets being operated on and then removed his home and his friends:furious: what the FU%K. I have put up an electric fence (not even switched on) 3ft high they can still touch and see each other. I started that nothing else would change and I would still help her in the morning/evening etc.
She sent me some curt/rude/accusing emails then blanked me at the yard. I did explain that when push comes to shove MY horse needs to be happy and he was not he was stressed/panicking at feed/hay time and I was getting stressed.
Tonight she blanked OH and I again so I went to speak to her and said that I assume from her behavior that she now wants nothing to do with me and that out 3 year friendship is over. She said yes that was the case.
I really believe that she is being OTT over the whole thing it is just a fence and I made sure that B was settled in his half of the field before I mentioned it. If he had been unsettled or stressed over it I would have said anything. My other mates at the yard and OH cant believe how she is reacting.
I am gutted we were really good friends or so I thought. I didn't realise that friendship was one sided and as long as it suited her and her horse it was OK but the first time is does not suit me and Chanter I am suddenly the devil women.
Sorry I did not mean to go on cookies and drink of your choice for those that could be bothered to read