What a day...
There this person at our yard, and she really likes Zola and thinks she can ride her so much better than me. She gave me her version of a lesson today. She always does it when shes there and i ride. The thing is, whenever she does it, i can never achieve anything with Zola Whenever i have a lesson with my instructor, or when Melia helps me, i get so much out of her and she really enjoys it. But when this girl 'teaches' me stuff, Zola goes so tense there's no point bothering as shes so upset. So when she left today, Zola still didnt chill out, so i put a jump up as she always loves jumping, and she wouldnt even do that She just kept refusing and got in a right state.
She always refuses 'scary' fillers, but i really want to take her showjumping more often and i would like to try out for the novice area team this year. But i cant as she keeps refusing, no matter what i do, i cant get her to jump them. I've tried being nice with her, using the whip, growling, shouting, kicking as much as i can, but it just doesnt work. Im begining to think i made a big mistake. She used to be so good at showjumping. Now she wont do dressage, i dont expect her to as im not interested either, but she wont cross country or showjump now. We just keep getting eliminated.
I love her so much, i would never give her up over something like this. But i keep thinking i've let her down, if someone who competed more had bought her she would be so good. Now she goes in the ring all juggy and we get eliminated by about the 5th jump Ive only been to one big show where we've done well.
What can i do? I feel so bad.
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There this person at our yard, and she really likes Zola and thinks she can ride her so much better than me. She gave me her version of a lesson today. She always does it when shes there and i ride. The thing is, whenever she does it, i can never achieve anything with Zola Whenever i have a lesson with my instructor, or when Melia helps me, i get so much out of her and she really enjoys it. But when this girl 'teaches' me stuff, Zola goes so tense there's no point bothering as shes so upset. So when she left today, Zola still didnt chill out, so i put a jump up as she always loves jumping, and she wouldnt even do that She just kept refusing and got in a right state.
She always refuses 'scary' fillers, but i really want to take her showjumping more often and i would like to try out for the novice area team this year. But i cant as she keeps refusing, no matter what i do, i cant get her to jump them. I've tried being nice with her, using the whip, growling, shouting, kicking as much as i can, but it just doesnt work. Im begining to think i made a big mistake. She used to be so good at showjumping. Now she wont do dressage, i dont expect her to as im not interested either, but she wont cross country or showjump now. We just keep getting eliminated.
I love her so much, i would never give her up over something like this. But i keep thinking i've let her down, if someone who competed more had bought her she would be so good. Now she goes in the ring all juggy and we get eliminated by about the 5th jump Ive only been to one big show where we've done well.
What can i do? I feel so bad.
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