Hi
I started riding a year and a half ago aged 30 and have been a slow learner. My main problem has been trot-canter transitions as I was scared of the idea of canter. I've had a variety of teachers as it has been difficult to get the same one regularly, and it got to the stage where I was fine on a couple of horses but terrible on any other.
Recently I found a fantastic teacher. My confidence improved, and I have ridden horses that have previously reduced me to tears of frustration (including one that threw me earlier in the year) and it has gone like a dream. Every week I felt like I'd made a breakthrough, and even started jumping.
Anyway, fantastic teacher is leaving and I can't get another instructor at that stables for a while. I've been going to another stables as well, but a lot of instructors have just left there as well. On Sunday I had a new instructor there who I just didn't take to. I was riding a horse who I know to be completely stubborn - the last time I rode her the instructor gave me his spurs in order to get her moving, and she was like a different horse. I've never used spurs before, haven't been riding long enough to use them and it wasn't my suggestion - but I made the mistake of mentioning it to the new instructor. She went on about it all lesson (how can you think you should be using spurs etc) and took great pains to tell me how much I was doing wrong. When she asked what I did in my last lesson (unsuccessfully trying flying changes and successfully managing my first straight bar rather than a cross pole - even if it was only about a foot off the ground) I am sure that she thought I was lying.
I had trouble with canter transitions on stubborn horse, but managed to get her there twice on each rein and loved it as she has a great canter (I now agree with everyone who says it is the best gait). The new instructor has however suggested that I go back to walk and trot only, and that for my next lesson I book a walk and trot hack with "a couple of steps of canter in there if you feel up to it". Given that in my experience of hacking you don't need to be able to do the transitions (as the horse generally follows the one in front), and that it isn't the canter itself that is the problem, I'm not sure why she's suggesting this. She also wants me to go onto tiny ponies (13.2-14h) as I've lost a lot of weight recently; I'm not entering into a ponies vs horses debate as I have nothing against either and know that it is an emotive subject, but it seemed like another area in which she was trying to put me down. Unfortunately if I want to carry on with lessons then I think that she is the only option at the moment.
What I wonder is - I am being arrogant and unreasonable in not wanting to go along with her suggestions? I am the first person to admit that I know next to nothing about riding, but what she is suggesting just seems a bit weird. Exercises to strengthen up my legs etc and get the horse listening to my outside leg I could understand - but this doesn't make any sense to me. I only get to ride once a week and have to travel a fair way to get there, and if I'm not enjoying it then I don't see the point. On the other hand - she is the instructor and presumably knows best. I just know that with the other instructor I felt that I could do anything, whereas with this one I feel like I can do nothing.
Any honest guidance welcome - if I'm wrong then I am happy to be told so! Finally (and apologies for the length of this) I'm new to this internet forum thing and though I have posted a couple of times I've never introduced myself through the cafe area. Not much to say - I live and work in London, don't have a horse but desperately want one and would spend all my time riding if I could!
Thanks in advance
Naomi
I started riding a year and a half ago aged 30 and have been a slow learner. My main problem has been trot-canter transitions as I was scared of the idea of canter. I've had a variety of teachers as it has been difficult to get the same one regularly, and it got to the stage where I was fine on a couple of horses but terrible on any other.
Recently I found a fantastic teacher. My confidence improved, and I have ridden horses that have previously reduced me to tears of frustration (including one that threw me earlier in the year) and it has gone like a dream. Every week I felt like I'd made a breakthrough, and even started jumping.
Anyway, fantastic teacher is leaving and I can't get another instructor at that stables for a while. I've been going to another stables as well, but a lot of instructors have just left there as well. On Sunday I had a new instructor there who I just didn't take to. I was riding a horse who I know to be completely stubborn - the last time I rode her the instructor gave me his spurs in order to get her moving, and she was like a different horse. I've never used spurs before, haven't been riding long enough to use them and it wasn't my suggestion - but I made the mistake of mentioning it to the new instructor. She went on about it all lesson (how can you think you should be using spurs etc) and took great pains to tell me how much I was doing wrong. When she asked what I did in my last lesson (unsuccessfully trying flying changes and successfully managing my first straight bar rather than a cross pole - even if it was only about a foot off the ground) I am sure that she thought I was lying.
I had trouble with canter transitions on stubborn horse, but managed to get her there twice on each rein and loved it as she has a great canter (I now agree with everyone who says it is the best gait). The new instructor has however suggested that I go back to walk and trot only, and that for my next lesson I book a walk and trot hack with "a couple of steps of canter in there if you feel up to it". Given that in my experience of hacking you don't need to be able to do the transitions (as the horse generally follows the one in front), and that it isn't the canter itself that is the problem, I'm not sure why she's suggesting this. She also wants me to go onto tiny ponies (13.2-14h) as I've lost a lot of weight recently; I'm not entering into a ponies vs horses debate as I have nothing against either and know that it is an emotive subject, but it seemed like another area in which she was trying to put me down. Unfortunately if I want to carry on with lessons then I think that she is the only option at the moment.
What I wonder is - I am being arrogant and unreasonable in not wanting to go along with her suggestions? I am the first person to admit that I know next to nothing about riding, but what she is suggesting just seems a bit weird. Exercises to strengthen up my legs etc and get the horse listening to my outside leg I could understand - but this doesn't make any sense to me. I only get to ride once a week and have to travel a fair way to get there, and if I'm not enjoying it then I don't see the point. On the other hand - she is the instructor and presumably knows best. I just know that with the other instructor I felt that I could do anything, whereas with this one I feel like I can do nothing.
Any honest guidance welcome - if I'm wrong then I am happy to be told so! Finally (and apologies for the length of this) I'm new to this internet forum thing and though I have posted a couple of times I've never introduced myself through the cafe area. Not much to say - I live and work in London, don't have a horse but desperately want one and would spend all my time riding if I could!
Thanks in advance
Naomi