Why do I like being on my own so much?

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Do you think it's a case of keeping the wrong company or is it just who I am? Anyone else like this?

Since moving out, my mum keeps checking if I'm lonely but I absolutely love living alone (when my landlady is away, which is alot!) I don't mind her company as such but I just prefer being on my own, same with my boyfriend Im realising I much prefer just doing my own thing.

When I think about my idea of a perfect day it doesn't really involve any other humans, just animals and my favourite hobbies all of which I do alone.

I realise I'm in danger of becoming shut off from everyone so I just wondered what your views are on this or is anyone else similar and forces themselves to be social?

Just curious!
 
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I love being alone. I do have friends but I'm not the type of person who needs human company and I am much happier in my own company with my animals. I sometimes have to force social events on myself but mostly my friends know what I'm like now so we do things occasionally and other times leave it. You're definitely not alone in this though.
 
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LOL! Nothing wrong with some downtime IMO;)
I've become happier in my own company over the years but think mines due to disappointment in humans!!:eek: I've come to not like them much!! Hence my love of horses, plants and nature.
I'm married & neither of us work so we have 24/7 to be together but we generally potter about on our own during the day doing our own thing & come back together in the evenings. Although I have friends I've come to the conclusion I'm not a very good one as I value my own time too much:oops:!
 
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SeeingSpots said:
I love being alone. I do have friends but I'm not the type of person who needs human company and I am much happier in my own company with my animals. I sometimes have to force social events on myself but mostly my friends know what I'm like now so we do things occasionally and other times leave it. You're definitely not alone in this though.
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I force myself to go to social events and meet up with people on occasion because I think it's the right thing to do, but does it really matter if I don't. Sometimes I enjoy them but sometimes I hate it and wonder why I'm forcing myself to go!
 
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SeeingSpots said:
Me too! I find people quite difficult to get along with. I'm a bit dizzy and eccentric about things and I think people find me weird. Which is fine because I'd rather be weird than a sheep but I find it hard to find people who think like me lol
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This is me, I'm odd and possibly slightly ocd and so people confuse me with how they do thinks, thanks for making me feel more normal!
 
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orbvalley said:
LOL! Nothing wrong with some downtime IMO;)
I've become happier in my own company over the years but think mines due to disappointment in humans!!:eek: I've come to not like them much!! Hence my love of horses, plants and nature.
I'm married & neither of us work so we have 24/7 to be together but we generally potter about on our own during the day doing our own thing & come back together in the evenings. Although I have friends I've come to the conclusion I'm not a very good one as I value my own time too much:oops:!
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I sound very similar to you too. My favourite thing to do is just go off exploring quietly alone, be it on bike, horse or foot.
 
I enjoy being around other people but I absolutely love my own time, and if I don't get at least one day a week of limited social interaction, then I get a bit angry with the world.
I don't see it as an issue, im an introvert by nature and need time to recharge and just be alone and content to do my own thing.
I am a grown up and won't do things i don't want to anymore, I don't force myself to go places. I do make time for my friends though, but equally I feel the pressure sometimes when they are wanting more than I'm willing to give and I hate saying no but I need to be alone.
My dad has always been the same.
 
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Flipo's Mum said:
I enjoy being around other people but I absolutely love my own time, and if I don't get at least one day a week of limited social interaction, then I get a bit angry with the world.
I don't see it as an issue, im an introvert by nature and need time to recharge and just be alone and content to do my own thing.
I am a grown up and won't do things i don't want to anymore, I don't force myself to go places. I do make time for my friends though, but equally I feel the pressure sometimes when they are wanting more than I'm willing to give and I hate saying no but I need to be alone.
My dad has always been the same.
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I always feel guilty for being like I am, like there is something wrong with it. I like being productive and I find that sometimes other people just get in the way of this. I just feel bad because I feel like I'm letting people down, especially my boyfriend because he always wants to be with me like a limpet haha. And I find that overwhelming!
 
OH and I both work from home and you'd think working and living together would be overkill but it's not! We do pootle about separately and it works for us. I am happiest on my little yard pottering and poking about. Though one thing I will say is since moving it has been lovely to have been made to feel so welcome. My neighbours are lovely people and it's super having them around for dinner once in a while. I am not the worlds most sociable but have enjoyed having company now and again. It's really nice though as I think they are like OH and myself, just happy to interact once in a while. I feel lucky to have a good balance. I have a lot of interests and find time soon passes - without loads of other people. So no, @Ale I don't think it's keeping the wrong company, you are just happy doing your own thing. Nowt wrong with that:D
 
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I am quite an extrovert in many ways but I am more than happy with my own company, it helps that I get plenty of social interaction through work, but like most of us here, I prefer the great outdoors, be that animals, plants, woodland, heathland or beach walks (especially if it's wild weather) and I am at my happiest out in the fresh air whatever I'm doing.
 
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Ale said:
I always feel guilty for being like I am, like there is something wrong with it. I like being productive and I find that sometimes other people just get in the way of this. I just feel bad because I feel like I'm letting people down, especially my boyfriend because he always wants to be with me like a limpet haha. And I find that overwhelming!
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I guess I'm just a bit older and less interested in what other folk think. I find I whinge more about the fact that folk don't get that I need time alone, than feeling bad about wanting that time! I unfortunately have some friends who like to be around people all the time and it makes for a difficult situation as I'm always anticipating what they are next going to ask me to do and how I can avoid it by having other plans or just simply saying 'no I don't want to!' I've tried explaining that it is no reflection on them, it's just how I am, but I guess some folk don't get it. And that's their problem! As long as I can socialise enough to do my job well and get out of life what I need, then why do something you don't want to.
 
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After I've been out with friends I enjoy going home and just being on my own, I'm more of an introvert than extrovert. Although I do like seeing friends i do feel like i need time on my own to recharge after. My OH is the person I love to share things with, if I think somewhere looks good I'd want to go with him etc. I enjoy his company as much as my own it's just natural now.
 
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Ale said:
This is me, I'm odd and possibly slightly ocd and so people confuse me with how they do thinks, thanks for making me feel more normal!
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I don't think people can tolerate me maybe? I don't know. Like I don't mean I'm nasty, I'm not - the complete opposite in fact but I get over excited about stupid things. Little things make me smile like a new high vis to ride in or the weather being sunny next week lol I'm dizzy and have daft ideas - latest one was collecting all the rubber from Toffee's feet and putting it back in the school - that people take the p*** out of me for. I talk to my horse quite regularly, and my dog and any other animal I come across. I love animals more than most people. I guess people think I'm annoying. But that's ok. I like my own company. I hack alone and chit chat to my horse and occasionally the sheep lol I said sorry to a dead cat on the road the other week as I felt so bad that it had been run over and not moved and was all squashed. I'm just me, I have a big heart and I like to do things for other people but I think people see me as a ditsy idiot. I either click with someone or I don't. Like for example, there's all of 2 people, maybe 3 on our yard I will hack out with and spend time with. The others, I can't gel with and feel uncomfortable hacking with their nice enough and they do keep asking me if I'd like to go but I prefer to go alone or with the people who I can relax with. If that makes sense?

Oh and the OCD thing? Yeah me too. Messy, lazy people irritate the hell out of me because I am a clean and tidy person. I spend half my life cleaning up after everyone else at home and the yard.
 
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SeeingSpots said:
I don't think people can tolerate me maybe? I don't know. Like I don't mean I'm nasty, I'm not - the complete opposite in fact but I get over excited about stupid things. Little things make me smile like a new high vis to ride in or the weather being sunny next week lol I'm dizzy and have daft ideas - latest one was collecting all the rubber from Toffee's feet and putting it back in the school - that people take the p*** out of me for. I talk to my horse quite regularly, and my dog and any other animal I come across. I love animals more than most people. I guess people think I'm annoying. But that's ok. I like my own company. I hack alone and chit chat to my horse and occasionally the sheep lol I said sorry to a dead cat on the road the other week as I felt so bad that it had been run over and not moved and was all squashed. I'm just me, I have a big heart and I like to do things for other people but I think people see me as a ditsy idiot. I either click with someone or I don't. Like for example, there's all of 2 people, maybe 3 on our yard I will hack out with and spend time with. The others, I can't gel with and feel uncomfortable hacking with their nice enough and they do keep asking me if I'd like to go but I prefer to go alone or with the people who I can relax with. If that makes sense?

Oh and the OCD thing? Yeah me too. Messy, lazy people irritate the hell out of me because I am a clean and tidy person. I spend half my life cleaning up after everyone else at home and the yard.
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Except for the OCD you could have described me above lol I do like to keep in touch with friends etc but I rarely go out socialising much prefer being at home just with OH and sons or with my animals and I talk to all of them and ones I meet out hacking too including hens lol :p:D I am not a needy person and I definitely need alone time..
 
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SeeingSpots said:
I don't think people can tolerate me maybe? I don't know. Like I don't mean I'm nasty, I'm not - the complete opposite in fact but I get over excited about stupid things. Little things make me smile like a new high vis to ride in or the weather being sunny next week lol I'm dizzy and have daft ideas - latest one was collecting all the rubber from Toffee's feet and putting it back in the school - that people take the p*** out of me for. I talk to my horse quite regularly, and my dog and any other animal I come across. I love animals more than most people. I guess people think I'm annoying. But that's ok. I like my own company. I hack alone and chit chat to my horse and occasionally the sheep lol I said sorry to a dead cat on the road the other week as I felt so bad that it had been run over and not moved and was all squashed. I'm just me, I have a big heart and I like to do things for other people but I think people see me as a ditsy idiot. I either click with someone or I don't. Like for example, there's all of 2 people, maybe 3 on our yard I will hack out with and spend time with. The others, I can't gel with and feel uncomfortable hacking with their nice enough and they do keep asking me if I'd like to go but I prefer to go alone or with the people who I can relax with. If that makes sense?

Oh and the OCD thing? Yeah me too. Messy, lazy people irritate the hell out of me because I am a clean and tidy person. I spend half my life cleaning up after everyone else at home and the yard.
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I think you may be my twin! I feel exactly the same way and that's the way I think people see me. I don't click with many people but I just seem to get on with animals. I like people but I just don't understand them I think.
 
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Except for the OCD you could have described me above lol I do like to keep in touch with friends etc but I rarely go out socialising much prefer being at home just with OH and sons or with my animals and I talk to all of them and ones I meet out hacking too including hens lol :p:D I am not a needy person and I definitely need alone time..
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Me too. I like sitting down with a cuppa, getting my laptop out and going on New Rider, checking my Facebook and browsing Ebay (I love to shop, 99% of which is horsey related) and snuggling with my dogs whilst enjoying the peace and quiet. I love my husband but couldn't spend all my time with him, he'd annoy me too much so glad he works and he's like my best friend as well as my husband, we get on soooo well. Obviously I love being with my kids. My best friend I see a lot as she has her horse in the stable next to mine which is lovely and my other good friend has her horse in the stable 2 down from that. I often hack with her. My other best friends live miles away so I text them and that's it but to be honest, I'm not even that good at keeping in touch with them (bad friend alert) but luckily we have the sort of friendship where it doesn't matter and we pick up where we left off when we see each other. I'm just not much of a people person.

I'm not OCD in a nasty way haha I just keep my stable & tack room extremely clean and my yard area. What irritates me is when people are just pure lazy. It takes me 5 minutes to sweep my section of the yard, 15 minutes to sweep the entire side of my yard (the yard is in a square shape). So with that in mind, why can't people take 5 minutes to sweep? The amount of time the drain gets blocked and clogged with muck and has to be emptied and cleaned out because people sweep their crap on it and don't even get me started on the muck heap. I don't say anything though, I just silently rant to myself, rant to my two good friends when they're up and clean up after everyone. Makes me feel better when I look around and see it nice and clean lol And yes, I'm a weirdo, I do know this haha xx
 
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