I'm sure other people must experience this sometimes.
Example happened last night - hired a local arena with a friend to practise some jumping. Friend is a young lady who rides for OH and has bought one of OH's home bred horses, who is by one of John Whittaker's stallions. He's only a baby but showing lots of potential. I'm a middle aged woman on an 8 year old Arab who has taken up riding again in later life and even as a child never had her own pony.
Sharing the school with friend not a problem because she wanted to give her baby horse experience with a few fences and I wanted to practise what I've been learning in my lessons - we've only recently started jumping - so although we're starting at different levels of ability we both needed the same tools and friend is very non-judgmental so I'm glad to be sharing the school with her and be able to benefit from her greater experience when setting up jumps etc.
However, then YO (also a professional, but showing rather than jumping) decides she'll come along with her friend, who deals in event horses and runs clinics etc, to set up some jumps - this is because they want to see how friend's horse is doing, which is understandable and it's very kind of them to do the jumps for us - I can't complain really.
Except that I know YO is always silently critiquing the rider she's watching and her friend, who is also very nice btw, really is only concerned about how capable you and your horse are in relation to jumping and/or eventing.
So they set this little grid up of four jumps. Me and Raf have only done a grid of 3 before and that took a bit of practise but we gave the grid of four a go. Straight away we were doomed because the first 'jump' was set up as a pole on the ground and a pole propped up at one end. Cantered up to it confidentally, Raf said woooh, what's that? It isn't a jump, it isn't a pole, what am I supposed to do? Me not having the skill to explain to him in the split second he hesitated just tried to push him on and he gamely hopped over it and then skipped and hopped over the rest. I didn't see YO and her friend rolling their eyes but I knew that's what they were doing internally!
Friend came along on her baby horse and bounce, bounce, bounce, bounce - perfect. We had another go, hop, skip etc etc. Put up the back pole for friend who once again bounced over. Eventually (with the back pole down again) me and Raf did manage to do it properly but our joint ability was clearly dismissed in the eyes of YO and her friend.
I don't know why it would bother me, I know we're never going to be stars at jumping or eventing or dressage, or any of that competitive stuff and that's fine because I'm really not interested in any of that, I want to relax and have fun and I have the perfect horse for that. I just feel a bit demoralized for myself and also sad that they think my horse is rubbish (how could they??!!)
Example happened last night - hired a local arena with a friend to practise some jumping. Friend is a young lady who rides for OH and has bought one of OH's home bred horses, who is by one of John Whittaker's stallions. He's only a baby but showing lots of potential. I'm a middle aged woman on an 8 year old Arab who has taken up riding again in later life and even as a child never had her own pony.
Sharing the school with friend not a problem because she wanted to give her baby horse experience with a few fences and I wanted to practise what I've been learning in my lessons - we've only recently started jumping - so although we're starting at different levels of ability we both needed the same tools and friend is very non-judgmental so I'm glad to be sharing the school with her and be able to benefit from her greater experience when setting up jumps etc.
However, then YO (also a professional, but showing rather than jumping) decides she'll come along with her friend, who deals in event horses and runs clinics etc, to set up some jumps - this is because they want to see how friend's horse is doing, which is understandable and it's very kind of them to do the jumps for us - I can't complain really.
Except that I know YO is always silently critiquing the rider she's watching and her friend, who is also very nice btw, really is only concerned about how capable you and your horse are in relation to jumping and/or eventing.
So they set this little grid up of four jumps. Me and Raf have only done a grid of 3 before and that took a bit of practise but we gave the grid of four a go. Straight away we were doomed because the first 'jump' was set up as a pole on the ground and a pole propped up at one end. Cantered up to it confidentally, Raf said woooh, what's that? It isn't a jump, it isn't a pole, what am I supposed to do? Me not having the skill to explain to him in the split second he hesitated just tried to push him on and he gamely hopped over it and then skipped and hopped over the rest. I didn't see YO and her friend rolling their eyes but I knew that's what they were doing internally!
Friend came along on her baby horse and bounce, bounce, bounce, bounce - perfect. We had another go, hop, skip etc etc. Put up the back pole for friend who once again bounced over. Eventually (with the back pole down again) me and Raf did manage to do it properly but our joint ability was clearly dismissed in the eyes of YO and her friend.
I don't know why it would bother me, I know we're never going to be stars at jumping or eventing or dressage, or any of that competitive stuff and that's fine because I'm really not interested in any of that, I want to relax and have fun and I have the perfect horse for that. I just feel a bit demoralized for myself and also sad that they think my horse is rubbish (how could they??!!)