I am lacking a lot of confidence right now. Some confidence issues are new, but others are very old.
I went out on a hack today. There was this huge open field which the other ride I was with galloped through. I cantered and tried to gallop, but as soon as Dolly did I had to pull her back. The actual feeling of galloping scares me. Many years ago I broke my femur from a horse taking off on me. A few years after that a horse again took off on me and I got a concussion (it could have been much worse). The feeling of galloping brings back all of the feelings I had when I couldn't get those horses to stop, knowing I was going to fall off and hurt myself. It is that feeling of no control.
This really shouldn't scare me. Dolly is such a safe horse. She really does take care of me. I mostly can ask her to stop even if the horse ahead of her is galloping.
My mind tells me I won't be able to stop her, she'll make a sharp turn and fall over, she'll spook and shoot to the side and I'll fall off, she'll stop suddenly and I'll keep going.... the list of the things that goes through my mind just keeps going on.
Again, on the same trail, I was cantering down the path with my friend. Cantering in the arena is just fine (and my outdoor arena has no fences around it, so its very open), but out on a trail is a different story. I keep thinking that Dolly will spook and I won't stay on. Interestingly enough, Dolly rarely spooks. She does spook on occasion and definitely more while on a trail than any other time.
Of course, then I have my jumping issues, but I am hoping once I move and am able to jump more than once a week in my lessons, that problem will quickly go away.
So, what would be a good way to solve my other issues? I really want to be able to trust my horse, but my brain just keeps getting in the way!
I went out on a hack today. There was this huge open field which the other ride I was with galloped through. I cantered and tried to gallop, but as soon as Dolly did I had to pull her back. The actual feeling of galloping scares me. Many years ago I broke my femur from a horse taking off on me. A few years after that a horse again took off on me and I got a concussion (it could have been much worse). The feeling of galloping brings back all of the feelings I had when I couldn't get those horses to stop, knowing I was going to fall off and hurt myself. It is that feeling of no control.
This really shouldn't scare me. Dolly is such a safe horse. She really does take care of me. I mostly can ask her to stop even if the horse ahead of her is galloping.
My mind tells me I won't be able to stop her, she'll make a sharp turn and fall over, she'll spook and shoot to the side and I'll fall off, she'll stop suddenly and I'll keep going.... the list of the things that goes through my mind just keeps going on.
Again, on the same trail, I was cantering down the path with my friend. Cantering in the arena is just fine (and my outdoor arena has no fences around it, so its very open), but out on a trail is a different story. I keep thinking that Dolly will spook and I won't stay on. Interestingly enough, Dolly rarely spooks. She does spook on occasion and definitely more while on a trail than any other time.
Of course, then I have my jumping issues, but I am hoping once I move and am able to jump more than once a week in my lessons, that problem will quickly go away.
So, what would be a good way to solve my other issues? I really want to be able to trust my horse, but my brain just keeps getting in the way!