I am sitting here with a glass of wine trying to decide if I have had a good lesson or a dreadful lesson tonight! I'm sorry that this is so long, but I need to write it down.
Since a bolting incident when I was 14, I have had terrible confidence issues riding in open spaces. In my whole lifetime I have only had 2 horses who I felt 100% happy riding in open fields. These were my old shire horse who I could hack anywhere, and my favourite cob at my RS who I have ridden in all hacks, cross country events etc. since I started riding at this school. In the last 10 years I have only ridden these two horses out of the school (with the exception of an old share horse who dumped me, and a ride out at Cumbrian Heavy Horses).
Since I returned to riding last September my RS cob has been retired and I have been riding a variety of other horses. My confidence has increased and I can now ride a good variety of horses in the school, and have even found myself a share horse (who I ride in the school only because there is no hacking there at all).
Tonight I got to my lesson to find out I was riding a horse who I had only ridden once. He is a 16.2hh TB type and really not the type of horse I was imagine I would ride. When I rode him last time it was during a flatwork lesson and I was nervous of him. I found him forward going and forward thinking - not like my usual rides. We stuck to walk and trot and managed to do half a circle in canter which was a huge achievement for us.
In my ride tonight my RI appeared on a horse and said that we were going hacking! I was almost sick at the thought of it. We only walked out for 20 minutes but we went through 3 open fields and across 2 sets of woodland. There were 3 other riders with us, 2 of which were riding fizzy horses who looked like they just wanted to gallop. My horse put up with me being tense and did get slightly joggy at one point, but on the whole he was a complete star.
We then got into the arena and my RI announced that we were now jumping! After a few strides of canter to warm up, my RI got me cantering over jumps! This horse has a huge jump and I found it un nerving. He kind of locked into a jump and flew over it. I almost lost my nerve at one point and my RI told me that I had to make him canter to the fence at a good pace to go over it. I did this, he did a huge jump and then I felt so overwelmed with the situation I started crying! I'm really embarrassed! I ended the session by doing a little course, and then I cried some more just because my nerves were almost at breaking point.
My RI did chat to me afterwards and said that he wanted to push me so I realised that I could do it. I did do it, so why don't I feel happy now? I just feel like climbing into bed and giving up this riding lark as I just don't seem to get any better. Why don't I spend all this money on doing something that I am good at - like shopping and eating!
Since a bolting incident when I was 14, I have had terrible confidence issues riding in open spaces. In my whole lifetime I have only had 2 horses who I felt 100% happy riding in open fields. These were my old shire horse who I could hack anywhere, and my favourite cob at my RS who I have ridden in all hacks, cross country events etc. since I started riding at this school. In the last 10 years I have only ridden these two horses out of the school (with the exception of an old share horse who dumped me, and a ride out at Cumbrian Heavy Horses).
Since I returned to riding last September my RS cob has been retired and I have been riding a variety of other horses. My confidence has increased and I can now ride a good variety of horses in the school, and have even found myself a share horse (who I ride in the school only because there is no hacking there at all).
Tonight I got to my lesson to find out I was riding a horse who I had only ridden once. He is a 16.2hh TB type and really not the type of horse I was imagine I would ride. When I rode him last time it was during a flatwork lesson and I was nervous of him. I found him forward going and forward thinking - not like my usual rides. We stuck to walk and trot and managed to do half a circle in canter which was a huge achievement for us.
In my ride tonight my RI appeared on a horse and said that we were going hacking! I was almost sick at the thought of it. We only walked out for 20 minutes but we went through 3 open fields and across 2 sets of woodland. There were 3 other riders with us, 2 of which were riding fizzy horses who looked like they just wanted to gallop. My horse put up with me being tense and did get slightly joggy at one point, but on the whole he was a complete star.
We then got into the arena and my RI announced that we were now jumping! After a few strides of canter to warm up, my RI got me cantering over jumps! This horse has a huge jump and I found it un nerving. He kind of locked into a jump and flew over it. I almost lost my nerve at one point and my RI told me that I had to make him canter to the fence at a good pace to go over it. I did this, he did a huge jump and then I felt so overwelmed with the situation I started crying! I'm really embarrassed! I ended the session by doing a little course, and then I cried some more just because my nerves were almost at breaking point.
My RI did chat to me afterwards and said that he wanted to push me so I realised that I could do it. I did do it, so why don't I feel happy now? I just feel like climbing into bed and giving up this riding lark as I just don't seem to get any better. Why don't I spend all this money on doing something that I am good at - like shopping and eating!