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A tip for confidence

Discussion in 'Confidence Club' started by Prjsmk, Dec 4, 2017.

  1. Prjsmk

    Prjsmk Member

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    I am not an expert or perfect rider! Far from it! But confident with my horse.. Even when he's naughty and tries bolting home for dinner! ... Because i know him. I took the time to get to know him, i watched his body language and study his reactions. I formed a bond. I still work on this at least once a week we have a session on it. If you put a horse infront of me that i didnt know and asked me to ride it, even if it was 100% guaranteed safe, I'd hesitate to get on and id be terrified! Get to know your horse, get confident on the ground. How can you be confident on the horse if you aren't confident working from the ground? Set up some spooky objects in your school, let your horse go, watch the reactions. Save them to your brain so if you are riding and he or she is getting nervy of something you can talk to them tell them its ok, build up a trusting relationship. If you dont trust your horse and get on they will know! Trust them to keep you safe. Always praise there good behaviour alot so they want to please you. Dont spend hours thinking of what might happen, talk yourself in to it not out of it. If you have lost your confidence gain it back taking steps starting with ground work for a while, then just sitting on your horse, even if someone is holding the lead, just sit for a few minutes then get off, then a few paces in walk. Set yourself small achieveable goals so you and your horse feel good after. Feeling good is the key to going further if you feel bad every time it will hold you back. On the plus side if you never ride again you still have a horse to kiss! :)
     
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    joellie Well-Known Member

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    That is a lovely post with good sensible advice, I hope it helps others with confidence issues. I sometimes can go through periods of not being as confident as I usually am and it is for no apparent reason, it just seems to creep up on me , I just try and ride through it and it usually disappears again.
     
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    If you are privileged to own a horse and have somewhere to work from the ground this advice is fine. It is all excellent.
    But many people who come to NR are beginners learning to ride in riding schools. I absolutely agree that hacking a horse one knows and which one rides regularly is a completely wonderful experience and that one needs to put in the time to know a horse and to work with it on the ground even if that is only tacking and untacking and grooming. Although I ride RS horses and RI's horses I am lucky to have had three long term relationships with my special horses.
    However one important part of learning to ride and gaining confidence is being able to ride a horse one has never met before.And that includes judging, before one mounts, whether it is safe to do so, and after mounting in the first few moments, assessing whether one feels safe hacking that particular horse. I have once in Texas declined to hack the horse I was given - and was switched to another.
    In the UK one is always asked to ride an assessment lesson at a new school or before hacking - and this is likely to be on a very safe horse. But all riding tests for the BHS Stages involve riders being allocated an exam horse they have not ridden before. It was part of my rider education to ride any horse I was offered and one has to know what to do - just as one learns to walk, trot and canter one learns to communicate with and assess a new horse.
    My experience is that it is possible to have a bond with a horse (or mule) and to have a most wonderful hack the very first time you ride it. With my share it was not love at first sight - she was a mean old mare. But thinking about this, with my other long term favourites it has been the first ride that fixed the horse in my heart.
     
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  5. Prjsmk

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    My post was obviously aimed at folk with there own horses. If it is riding school offer to do mucking out, tacking up, grooming... Watch some lessons, watch a more experienced rider on the horse(s) you ride. The riding school i was at was grateful of the extra help on busy days and didnt mind spectators. :)
     
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    It happens to me too, sometimes shaking like a leaf when mounting! But the cob knows me well and does his, im not moving mum till you settle down! Allows me a few moments to sort myself out lol, then we go for a steady stroll nothing too fast or too far just enough to re boost my confidence
     
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    Trewsers Well-Known Member

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    Yes you can't beat having a horsey nose to kiss:D
    I have three of those:D:D and only one I ride!!
     
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    Kissing is the most important part really lol
     
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