Thank you everyone, Im really not brave at all and really you have very little choice when given a diagnosis other than follow the treatment plan that is planned for you. I obviously have young children too, my youngest being 7 which makes all the hospital stay etc difficult. The surgery was huge and has left me having to self cathiterize as ive lost feeling to my bladder, i also have a temporary stoma to give my large bowel chance to heal and so recovery has been far from easy, and at times darn right depressing. My bladder may fix itself but theres a chance it wont. Again my symptoms werent huge, since mar/apr 2017 i had ibs symptoms as had constipation and pain near my left hip when i ate, this progressed to constant pain and via colonoscopy on thurs 28th dec a 6cm rectostigmoyd tumour was found. I did not at any point have bleeding! I had just turned 39 so it was a complete shock to both myself and the drs. I only write my symptoms again as I dont want anyone to think you get bleeding with BC cause I didnt. On a brighter note the surgeon believes he got it and seems quite pleased with himself, I however find it hard to believe its gone and yet am throughly grateful for his time and expertise. x