Well, I've managed to now sort our my subscription!
Last weekend I went on the Bounce Back Course, which was an interesting journey. There were two other lovely ladies on the course with different confidence issues but it was very supportive.
The first day was lecture based, talking about emotions, visualisations and how to wind back bad memories. Looking at the type of personality you have and how this translates to your stress and coping style. Also for all those Freud fans, something similar to the ID, Ego and Super Ego!
The next day was mainly ridden with a one-to-one session. I was fine till I 'tacked' myself up then completely lost it and shut down! The trainers were great and really helped me get over this, and I rode! A strange horse in a strange place, AND I felt confident enough to leave the indoor school, riding again, in a strange place down to the outdoor school and rode in the WIND!!!! That is a really big deal for me! Here I just need to have a celebration moment!!! (Something from the course, I am very good at saying no I'm not good at riding and convince myself I can't. So each time I achieve I have to make sure I anchor this!)
Another important lesson I learnt, was not to do things to please other people. The times I have come a cropper, i.e. falling off, have been to please other people and ridden against my better judgement. That was a real light bulb moment. If you are not in the right place then just don't get on at that moment. Do something else and then just see how you do.
Also, don't feel the fear and do it anyway. I know it works for some people, but for me it didn't work. I was just anchoring the fear feelings with riding, and so I'd get off and think 'pheewww' but didn't take away the feeling that I'd done it and it was okay, and would be the next time, I had just anchored fear to the experience. I have now realised that I can say I'm feeling worried, and this is okay, so I just need to get myself back into the safe mode. Which in my case will mean getting off and probably running about like a mad woman, but if it works, who cares!! LOL!!! Anyway, this will nodoubt, get less as time goes on.
Anyway, tomorrow I'm having a ground work lesson with my horse and if I feel good, then I'm going to get on, the first time in ages! But again I'm not going to pressure myself, just go with the flow and enjoy the feelings! Celebrate every little achievement and attempt to recapture what it is I enjoyed about horses and riding, which does seem to get lost in all the pressue to do things.
I would recommend giving it a go if you can, OH paid for me for Christmas, so I was lucky, and I am now aiming to keep the good feelings I've got anchored we can only get better!!!
Will let you know how I get on!!
If anybody is interested then here is their website:
http://www.theequestriantherapyteam.com/
The one lady won the course in Horse & Rider mag, and I think she will be featured in the next edition.
) - the sort of thing I needed a few years ago (but want to keep details of in case I ever need it in the future, you never know!).
Does anyone know if there is anything like that available over here?
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